DF and I have SD9 all school week and the BM has her in the weekends. SD9 does a lot better in school when she stays with us plus it just makes more since to have her during the school week because her school is in our side of town. I just finished hosting a slumber party for SD9’s b-day this month. (Which BTW was very exhausting since I got NO help from DF.) I’m usually the one getting her ready for school, packing her lunch, taking her to school, and helping with homework. Getting her ready for bed etc…

With that said, my fiancé will be leaving for a week to go on a business trip (two weeks from now.) He had asked me if SD9 can stay with me that week while he was away. And I honestly told him “No, because I would like alone time, If that’s okay with him?” He said it was “fine” that he will ask her mother to take her but he said it with a very disappointed look on his face. He was short with me after that for the rest of the day. So I knew it bothered him that I did not want to keep her.

I think DF getting all upset with me is ridiculous especially when He and I know SD9 has a mother who is more than capable of taking care of her own daughter for one lousy week. The bitch face can pick her up doing school week if she wanted to for a day or so, but refuses because she doesn’t want to drive 30mins to pick her daughter up from school. The woman is unemployed! She has all the time in the world to do these things but she refuses because she is just too DAMN LAZY. There are times when SD9 wants to do something (school trips/events/activities etc...) and the bitch has the nerve to tell my fiancé why can’t Foxymama do it? And I think to myself seriously?!? Because I’M NOT HER MOTHER! That’s why you stupid bitch! Ugh..grr… It gets me so angry that I have to pick up after HER slack when it comes to SD9. Don’t have kids if you don’t want to put up with them, it’s just that simple!

Now does this make ME a bad person? Not wanting to have SD9 while DF is away? To want quite me time for a week? Should I just give in and keep SD9 for that week or stand my ground and let HER mother deal with her?

P.S. DF has not mentioned it to BM about keeping SD9 for a week. Though I already know how it’s going to go down. ….He will call her…..

DF: “I’m going on a business trip for a week and need you to keep SD9 until I return.”
BM: “Why can’t Foxymama keep her? You know me keeping her requires me to drop her off and pick her up from school?! That’s too much driving I have things to do…blah blah blah” continues to give DF more lame excuses not to have SD9.
DF: Gives in… then says...”I will talk to Foxymama. But I think she made up her mind about you having SD9 for the week.
BM: “That’s fine. I still don’t understand why she doesn’t want to have SD9 for the week, what the heck is HER problem”
DF: Blows of the question to avoid any confrontation…. then will say “I will call you back with a defiant answer”.

And if she does end up keeping SD9 for the week. I know for a fact she will Fill SD9's head with mean statements about me. "oh Foxymama didn't want you this week because she didn't want to spend time with you, she doesn't really love you"...etc... When in fact its the other way around!!!

UGH!!!!! Story of my life!