Told DH last night SD20 is a spoiled brat
DH is now trying to be Disney Dad with our two BDs, and I am NOT having it! No way I want them to grow up like SD20.
BD10 has an iphone 3. SD was the first in our entire family to get an iphone, her grandmother bought it for her when she was 16/17. She dropped it multiple times, broke some stuff, decided she needed a new one. DH bought this old one from her because he had been wanting an iphone. He kept it for a while until he got a good deal and, against my wishes, bought himself a new iphone. He then gave the old iphone to BD10. It doesn't have service, she just uses it to play games and can access the Internet on it while in our house.
So, DH tells me he wants to buy BD10 a new cell phone for her birthday and activate it. I said no. She's 10. She doesn't need a cell phone. There is no time she is not with one of us or that we don't know where she is/who she is with. It's NOT a need. And it's not BD10 driving this, it is DH. SD got a cell phone when she was 11.
So DH and I are arguing and I tell him straight to his face that he already has one spoiled rotten child and I am not going to have BD10 turn out that way as well. Don't care if it hurt his feelings, it's the truth.
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LOL...what did he say? I
LOL...what did he say?
I don't get parents these days wanting to shove electronics down small kids throats. Are they just to lazy to parent and or say no? It truly is frightening.
My kids did not have cells until they were 14ish. And that was probably too early. lol
Typical DH tried to turn it
Typical DH tried to turn it into a joke. When I said, "You already have one spoiled rotten child." He said, "Who? BD7?" I said, "No, and you KNOW who I'm talking about." He didn't say anything after that. What CAN he say?!
My DH got SS now14 a cell
My DH got SS now14 a cell phone when he was 9. It was upgraded to an Iphone this past Christmas. SD11 just got her first phone at Christmas from BM and she got to start out with an IPhone. That is why DH upgraded SS - because there was no way in the world he was going to let the Prince have a lesser phone than his sister.
These kids I live with are SO SPOILED it is disgusting. They do nothing. They earn nothing. They appreciate nothing.
My DH knows this, but continues to spoil them in his attempt to be the "liked" parent. Shouldn't be that difficult as BM is a slug.
So now they have their noses in those phones 24/7. They haven't broken or lost them yet - I'll give them that much.
Before the iphone, SD had a
Before the iphone, SD had a blackberry but that wasn't "good enough." I do NOT want my kids turning out like her, bottom line!
Thank God your kids have you!
Thank God your kids have you! It is way too late for my skids. They are too far gone already!
Good for you to tell him
Good for you to tell him straight to his face that SD20 is a spoiled, rotten BrAT!
All my kiddos have phones.
All my kiddos have phones. All got them around age 10. Are they spoiled? They have certainly been blessed with some material things, but they do do chores, my dd15 has a job, they make good grades-so no I don't think they are horribly spoiled.
Have you asked your dh why he wants to get your bd a phone? Is there some reason? I really like it that my kids have phones. My youngest is 11. I call her all the time on it. I call her when I am at work and she is home with dh-its nice just to send her a quick text sometimes. Also, there are times when we are not present in the exact same location. I drop her off for church youth group. If they get out early or are running late-she calls me. If she were to get ill she calls me. If she is over at a friends house, I know that I can reach her at all times without bothering the other parent. If she just wants to text me a quick I love you before bed at a sleepover she can do that without feeling embarrassed in front of the other girls. If we got to a school football game-I will let her walk around with her friends-but can call her if I need her or vice versa. There are times when she calls me from the school bus to tell me she forget this or that. If she waited til she got to school and used their phone I would have already left for work.
So...maybe he just does not see a phone as a way to spoil your dd10, but simply something he would like her to have to keep in better communication with her.
Geez I guess my life just
Geez I guess my life just doesn't run as smoothly as the rest of you. There are several days a week in which I can be called away at a moments notice. It doesn't matter if I've prearranged to pick my kid up at a practice at 6. So, yeah, I like to call them and keep them abreast of my plans as well. My daughter sometimes works longer or shorter hours than anticipated. She can call me and I can go pick her up.
Also with 3 kids and dh not living in our home full time for 4 years- I often had to miss out two kid activities and chose one. I literally could not be with my kids 24/7- and it sure was nice for them to be able to call and tell me they won their baseball game, cheer competition, spelling bee. Also during my dh's deployment sometimes he could only get to the phone at certain times- if o e of the kids was at the park playing he could still call and talk to them in his limited time.
So do kids need cell phones? Well of course not but they also don't need long weekend trips, twinkies, Allstar sports, or any of those other things we get them. Just for the record, I've never called my daughters employer- she's worked for 2 years, their teachers, never screamed at a coach, and have certainly never done their homework- I wouldn't want to adversely affect my ds's 4.0! I don't spoil my kids as a habit, I am definitely not a helicopter parent, I just happen to like being able to contact my kids anytime I want.
I'm just saying that not everyone sees their kid having a cell phone as an issue of spoiling. My two youngest have basic phones with no data. My almost 16 year old just got an iPhone. It's an older model- she paid for the phone herself and pays the monthly data on it.
My point was only to suggest to op that just because he wants his dd to have a phone it doesn't mean he is trying to spoil her. Maybe it just makes him more comfortable. Just another viewpoint.
Probably went right over your
Probably went right over your DHs head.... and Jumping Jehosafat how did we everrrrrrr survive without cell phones when we were kids????
My nieces are sweet girls now, but I truly worry about them as they get older. My SIL is VERY, VERY, did I stress VERY materialistic and so is her MIL. The two of them buy those girls EVERYTHING! My 6 and 3 year old nieces have I Touches, their own I-Pad, more clothes than they will ever wear in a lifetime (and ALL MUST be brand name), every toy, gadget, what have you and SIL just took the 6 year old for her first gel manicure... no, not just a manicure, but gel! A freaking 6 year old! I love SIL dearly and I love to do nice things for my BS3, but geesh... there comes a point when it gets a bit ridiculous.
A 10 year old does not NEED a cell phone for pete's sake.