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So there is another project on the horizon. This time for Science.

Yeah science. One of the courses that SS failed.

It is due after Spring Break.

I come home and ask DW if SS is working on it. DW says she believes he is and goes to check.

She comes back and says “He says he is going to work on it at his Dad’s place.”

I called bullshit. DW, looking somewhat defeated said “Don’t you think I don’t know that? I just don’t know what to do anymore.”

I march into SS’s room. He’s playing on his old DS. Hmmm, I forgot about that.

DS confiscated.

“Your project.” I said “You are to work on it.”

“I want to work on it at my Dad’s”

“Okay. But you can at least start now. Figure out what materials you need. How big it has to be. Do some research…”

SS mumbles and grumbles and heads off downstairs.

I take care of dinner. Later I go check on SS.

He’s playing with a jigsaw puzzle.

Jigsaw puzzle confiscated.

SS brings on the water works and runs to his mother.

“This isn’t fair! I want my stuff back! I hate Drac0!”

DW didn’t like that.

Not one bit.

“I am not saving you!” DW barked. “Not this time! I asked you nicely to start working on your school project and you won’t even lift a finger! You want to fail and be a loser, BE MY GUEST, but you are not loafing around the house and playing all evening!!!”

Welcome to hell kid. At least for you, it's hell. For me, it's Monday.”

"Follow me!” I ordered.

SS looked at his mother pleadingly one last time. Thankfully, DW stayed stone cold.

SS followed me sulking into the kitchen.

I point to the sink “Dishes! Now!”

SS looked at me like I had just asked him to power up the space shuttle.

“Yes, you heard me. You are to do the dishes. Afterwards, we are going to fold laundry. Then after that, we are going to tidy up the living room.”

Cinderelllllllaaaaaaaa!!!

I stood over SS as he did the dishes. Or at least, he “tried” to do the dishes. He tried to get out of it saying he can’t do it without rubber gloves.

“I’ll buy you some tomorrow” I said. “For now, use your bare hands.”

The waterworks coming out of this kid was unbelievable. I swear, he could have jet washed the pots and pans with just the tears streaming down his face.

He washed the dishes but then left them in the sink and ran to his room to get a tissue and curl up in a fetal position on his bed. I chased after him.

“Oye! You’re not finished. You need to rinse and dry the dishes!”

SS by now is just a puddle of a wet mess. He said something to me, but I couldn’t make heads or tails of what he was saying. Something about ‘not shouting at him.’

“If you weren’t failing and do as you were told, you wouldn’t be in this mess! Now wipe your face and get back to work. I’m not through with you yet.”

So how do you like me now?
How you like me now?
How you like me now?

SS dried the dishes and DW joined us in the kitchen. She was completely onboard with the program.

“Either you work on your school project, or you do chores around the house SS. What’s it going to be?”

SS caved. He chose to start working on his school project.

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Drac0's picture

>Please tell me it's finally sinking in with her. Her child is a brat. Please tell me this will stick finally.<

Like I said yesterday. Three steps forward. Two steps back.

She's still upset that I brought his precious electronics to work but as this present blog entry can attest for, SS still manages to find ways to distract himself.

By this time next week, I suspect I'll be taking away his yo-yo.

Drac0's picture

DW says that she is scared SS's stuff will get stolen from my office. First of all, to get to my office you need a level 3 security clearance (Aside from the president only two dozen people have), and pass through not one but two security checkpoints. Plus all of SS's stuff is locked away in a filing cabinet that only I have the key to.

So yeah, I am betting that DW is upset about me taking everything to the office is because she has no power to give it back to SS.

Drac0's picture

Security clearance

It's the only thing that Corporate Rats like me and spies have in common.

That, and vodka martini's (shaken, not stirred)

Drac0's picture

I had to google him. Interesting read!

So no, did not know him. Never heard of him before now actually.

I'll explain in a PM why my job has such high security....

Drac0's picture

> let SS attend a Doctor Who club meeting <

SS's school has a "Supernatural" fan club.

*sigh*

If I was back in high school. I'd never come home.

Drac0's picture

>When he graduated from high school, he was on the honor roll, He never pulled anymore crap that bad again<

*standing ovation*

You know, it's amazing that after hearing these stories, people like my DW and her father still. Just. Don't. Get. It!

DW is a high school drop out. FIL did nothing. He just said, "When you set your mind to it then maybe you should think about going back.". No discipline. No limits. No commitments. DW managed to get a job in the mailroom of a company and after working like a dog figured out that maybe it is a good idea to go back to get her GED.

My father OTOH, he rode my ass straight into college. I forgot my homework once; just once. Dad said "You forget your homework again, don't even bother coming home." I too made the honor roll in high school.

So here you have one parent (my FIL) who didn't do squat and didn't bother doing anything to get DW to excel in school. Contrarily my father really forced my brother and I to put our noses to the grindstone. I have a bachelors in engineering and my brother has an MBA.

FIL and DW still maintain that my Dad was "too rough" on me and my brother....

Living the dream's picture

Love it! Really, though, isn't this just how most parents parented until about 30 or so years ago?

The rise of the divorce culture led parents to begin kissing kids' asses. I think it was really rare in previous generations, at least that's my impression.

ChiefGrownup's picture

Very awesome. I don't know what's so hard about this, for the parent I mean. I've been telling dh to do it for years. "I don't want her to think of chores as punishment!" Are you freaking kidding me? "What chores?!" I retorted. Girl did none at that time. But mustn't distort her image of something she's never required to do anyway. She now does a few sporadically -- but she gets ten bucks when she does. Chores 1/8 of a point, Learning 0.

Great going, Draco. Glad your dw supported you in this.

alittlepinot's picture

drac0 I've never commented on one of your blogs before and please prepare yourself for some creepy stalkerish comments!

First of all I read your blogs often and your are hysterical and very well written, but moreover you give me some iota of hope that this is all going to be okay and that while step life sucks a lot it's not the end all be all of everything.

Your blogs really do make me laugh and I find myself having a bad thinking "wonder if Drac0 posted anything." I'm not crazy...promise! Lol.

I also have an underachiever SS but he's 19 and doesn't live with us so I don't have to deal with it day in and day out.

There are a million step parenting books mostly all written by women. You should write a book different perspective. At least then you could pay for SS's tutoring frm the profits! Lol.

Drac0's picture

I'm flattered! Thank you!

Actually yesterday evening was a far better day than the day before (when this blog post's incident happened)

I came home yesterday and SS was at the opposite end of the momentum pendulum. Not only was he working on his project, but he was actually close to completing it! He was being very creative too.

The only thing he needed help with was a piece of wood that needed cutting. I have a mitre saw so I cut it for him.

Yeah, I too looked around for books on being a stepfather (that's how I stumbled onto this site actually). I couldn't find much. The only things I could find were half-baked articles that had no real substance to them. There's plenty of good articles and blogs on stepmothers, but virtually nothing for stepfathers. I can only conclude that being a stepparent is more of a problem for stepmothers than for stepfathers.

Almost seems like a good intro to my book doesn't it?

"I couldn't find a good book on how to be a stepfather so I decided to write one of my own..."

alittlepinot's picture

I couldn't agree more! Write on! You'll have a lot of people who purchase it on here. You could even compile your blogs and send it along to get some input. Witty, educational, HONEST. You might need a ghost writer though to remain somewhat anonymous.

I think it is popular belief that it is easier to be a step father than a step mother and being a step mother I sort of agree, however, we forget that it is mostly step fathers that are raising the kids just like you do with your SS and my DH does with my bios. They are the ones that volunteer to be there day in and day out. Although obviously there are plenty of situations where the men are the custodial parents and SM's have to be full time but that isn't my situation.

I have a lot of respect for them men (and women) who step up to basically raise their spouses children full time as you do. You are very active with your SS and even though you don't see eye to eye it's very easy to see that you have his best interest in mind even when he's driving you crazy.

And hey BS6 loves nutella! I may need to get some recipes from ya!