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Unhappy's Blog Got Me Thinking

doll faced sm's picture

I didn't want to hi-jack Unhappy's blog (http://www.steptalk.org/node/71140), but now I wonder . . .

For those of you who've had the "if your daughter gets pregnant" talk w/ your DH/SO, how did that person react? I'm not entirely sure why, but after I read what she wrote, my initial thought was that the DH in this situation realizes how much his daughter is messed up, and he now wants a re-do to redeem himself.

Of course, I could be totally off, and I was actually kinda suprised by this, but now the more I think about it, the more I wonder if any of the spouses actually do have that attitude. It also makes me wonder if my own DH would want to/offer to support any offspring SS had.

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bi's picture

for me, the conversation happened after she got pregnant. i told him i wasn't going to be involved. i told him i'm not throwing or attending a shower, i'm not going to the hospital, and i'm not babysitting. he fully understands. i don't know how he would feel if i said this without the history of her rejoicing at my miscarriage, but i do know that no matter what, i will never allow him or anyone else to force me into a situation i don't want to be in.

bi's picture

OMG. sd19 is pregnant and said something damn near identical to me! do these little wench's have a handbook they go by?

emotionaly beat up's picture

Love the way these SD's think they can just put the past in the past and move on no apology, no explanation, no accountability. Yeah sure. If she had changed that conversation would have started off with, look I was a bitch etc., and I am so sorry, can you ever forgive me. But, it didn't because she doesnt' want DADDY back in her life, she sure as hell doesn't want YOU in her life, but right now with the baby coming, daddy's wallet would come in handy. How lucky are you your husband has her number and won't let her away with this, actually, how lucky is she. Without daddy bailing her out she might just learn something this time.

bi's picture

sd19 is EXACTLY the same way. she has never apologized for how she acted when i was pregnant or when i miscarried, but tells me she thought "the past was the past" and she thought i "would be over it by now and want to help her". :O yeah. i'm just chomping at the bit to jump right in and "help" the bitch who is happy my baby died with her pregnancy. are you f'g kidding me? :? even had the nerve to tell me it isn't "healthy" for her or her dad for me to "shut her out". apparently what's healthy for me means jack shit. that crap got her blocked from my life completely. too bad for her, i'm her only window into our life and she just boarded it up permanantly.

StarStuff's picture

FDH and I have discussed what would happen if SD ever got pregnant. I told him that I absolutely refuse to raise any grandkids. He agreed and said that if SD got pregnant that she would have to go for adoption or move out. And if this horrible scenario ever plays out and FDH changes his mind and lets her stay with a baby then I will move out. F that.