i doubt it, i think my mil has brainwashed sd13.5 so bad that sd truly believes she is doing everyone a favor by blessing them with her presence.

ss on the other hand is not so happy with bm these days, so i am certain he looks forward to the visits and would stay 24/7 if given the opportunity.

Maybe, but in my case the skids are so spoiled that they will ignore me anyway and daddy will take them to movies and out to eat. With their attitudes, I think they know that they'll just do what they want and give me that smirk if I don't like it.

SS17 likes being here when my BIOS are here. With all of his issues, sad to say he has no friends, & my BIOS, although 9 & 12, are actually closer to his maturity range than his peers & he likes hanging out with them.

SS5 would rather be "at Mommy's house," Mommy "lets him do whatever he wants and doesn't make him eat meat." BM told therapist (with DH there) than SS5 cries every time it is time for him to come here & that he does not want to go. SS5 also told therapist that he likes me & BD12, that he REALLY REALLY LIKES BS9 (he follows him around relentlessly & talks about him all day until he gets home from school) but that he doesn't like his Daddy, because he makes him eat things he doesn't like & yells at him a lot (a fairly accurate assessment.) He didn't even mention his actual half-brother, SS17, but he makes it pretty clear he doesn't like him very much whien he is here.

So, I get annoyed when either SK is here, but only SS5 feels the same way!

DM ~ i am scared shitless that the assgnat(s) will try to pull the "i want to live w/dad" card.

i had a big scare earlier this year about them wanting to live here ~~ OH GOD, i was a basket case!

dm ~~ i say some pretty unattrative things about skids when i'm lit like a roman candle myself.. the most recent, which was probably one of the harshest was:

"don't blame me b/c your skids are losers"

and i have to agree, i could not or would not be able to have skids live in my house! dh would have to make other arrangements. but i pray we never come to that crossroad, he knows i didn't sign up for that crap and i honestly believe he wouldn't be hip with having them 24/7 either.

I often wish that BM and spoiled rotten princess would move far away. I'm sure the extended visits would still be difficult, but at least the EOW would stop. Even my own BS14 hates that schedule. He would like to make his own plans and not be so stuck in that routine. He and the anti-Christ get along just fine but the relentless EOW schedule is tough on him too. At least in a couple of years he will be driving and can maybe negotiate visit time himself.

I often wish that BM and spoiled rotten princess would move far away. I'm sure the extended visits would still be difficult, but at least the EOW would stop. Even my own BS14 hates that schedule. He would like to make his own plans and not be so stuck in that routine. He and the anti-Christ get along just fine but the relentless EOW schedule is tough on him too. At least in a couple of years he will be driving and can maybe negotiate visit time himself.

I think they have mixed feelings about coming to our house. They love our house compared to BM's. She lives in a one bedroom, one bathroom house, with no washer drier, no cable TV, no computer. At our house, they have their own rooms, their own bath, their own computer room, internet, tv, phone, laundry. We have a swimming pool, jacuzzi, game room with pool table, darts, neon lights, etc. They love our house, but probably wish we weren't in it, as they don't like our rules.

I know that atleast for now DH's daughter likes the set up. BM only wants to play mommy when it benefits her, so i'm sure she doesn't have a great time at "home". When at MIL's, she gets away with whatever she wants, has what she wants when she wants it, gets to play with BIL's kids the whole weekend, yada yada yada. I pretty much let DH have his time with her while we are there, and she will break off for a few min here and there to watch tv with me or tell me about something at school or whatever. SD's time away from BM's is like a mini vacation for her because she gets refused nothing and has a great time being glued to DH.

When it comes to SD9 she hates it just as much as I do or even worse! She doesn't like me- yes I know she has told me, she doesn't like that I make her make her bed clean up after herself you know the things that kids should do. :O She doesn't like her new baby brother I don't know why maybe she thinks he takes time from her and her dad, we have to watch her with him cause she looks at him so ugly kind of afraid she'll hurt him. }:) SD6 she's good she goes with the flow she loves seeing her dad and her new baby brother and she says she likes me

Yes. At least I know my ss feels the same way. He chose (with help from bm) to not come for 2 years. He preferred not to come and no one forced him to. Now he ONLY comes because he has to or else bm will be in contempt if she doesn't make him come. If it were just him seeing his dad then it prob wouldn't be so bad for him but he also has to see me and our kids which I don't think je can stand any of us! But even if it was just him visiting dh and not us ss only wants that if 1-he doesn't have to miss anything at 'home' and 2- if he gets something out of the visit. So I know it isn't a one way thing.