We are concerned that SD16 is heading toward or has an eating disorder. I'm not at all surprised as she has been in need of counseling for many years. I understand that it's more about the emotional needs than the food issues that really drive it. What I am looking for is some first hand experience on how to handle the discussions that are necessary. Not that I talk to her at all because she prefers to pretend I don't exist but I would like to be able to help DH navigate this subject a little.

So help me figure this behavior out. I'm not sure why but SD16's newest thing is when she eats at our house she only uses paper plates and cups. She'll use a plastic cup for cereal instead of getting a bowl out of the cupboard. I have no idea why. What's the motivation for this? anyone got any ideas?

Does she think the dishes are mine, therefore untouchable? possibly, they are special to me, collectable pottery. However we all use them on a daily basis and I've never made a point of protecting them

Our School routinely does a parent's night for each sport season. Nothing too special just an introduction of the athlete and parents. They announce each as they walk across the field/gym. Seniors present their mother with a flower.

So I am looking for opinions on if you would let your teenage daughter get a bellybutton peircing? and what is your rationale is behind that opinion? And what do you think the driving need is for a teenager to want it?

SD16 is asking DH if he would allow it. He is delaying the answer. I 'think' because he wants to just say yes but knows that it might be looked on as bad parenting. So we have been discussing it a bit.