I have been married to dh for 14 years. When we met, ss was three and had been living with maternal grandparents. Last year, ss, now 16 years old, moved in with us for the first time ever because of supposed sexual abuse issues at the home of maternal grandparents. I said that of course ss should come to live with us. I had no idea that ss had a ton of mental illness problems which would require hospitalization. There were also other issues which would be too identifying to post here.As a family, we are through the crisis, and ss is on medication but ss is still very needy.