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O/T -I think this may be it for us...

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Submitted by catgirl on Tue, 08/25/2015 - 4:48am

*update* Thanks for all the replies, it's been really helpful. I'm not going to leave him the letter. It was cathartic writing it but I now agree with most of you that it's not going to help the situation. I am going to try to talk to him again tonight but if he won't talk to me then I may just suggest we take a break so we can both figure out what we want. I do love the guy and I don't want to break up, but I am starting to feel undervalued and belittled. I guess I had doubts about this relationship from the start but it's really hard to recognise when enough is enough.

Need to vent...

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Submitted by catgirl on Sun, 08/23/2015 - 2:45pm

So it's been a long time since I've posted anything on here. Things have been up and down but generally okay. SO and I have now been living together for over 2 years and SD15 and SS8 have been pretty good about everything. SS8 stays over most weekends and SD15 stays when she wants - maybe once or twice a month, because she's a teenage girl and would rather hang out with her friends on a Saturday night than stay at her dad's.

Finding it hard to talk to SD13

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Submitted by catgirl on Mon, 05/13/2013 - 1:50pm

Now that SO and I are getting close to moving into our first house together, I have started to become more involved in the skids lives. This past weekend SO and I took SD13 to see the new Star Trek film while SS7 stayed at home with BM as he wasn't well. I've not officially met BM and didn't want to just show up on her doorstep, so I stayed in the car while SO went to the door to get SD. Off we went to eat some pizza, watch the film, and after a few hours we dropped SD back off at BM's house. So far so good.

SO told the skids we're moving in together

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Submitted by catgirl on Sun, 05/05/2013 - 3:53pm

So now they know that their dad has a girlfriend and that they're going to be living together. Apparently SD13 is fine with it - SO tells me she just said she's not bothered. Don't know whether she's truly not bothered or whether she's just saying it to keep him happy! SS7 doesn't seem to really understand, but I think he'll be fine once he's got used to the idea. It's the teenage girl I'm worried about...

It's SS7's birthday today...

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Submitted by catgirl on Tue, 04/16/2013 - 12:47pm

Seven years ago my SO and BM celebrated bringing a new life into the world together. Being a midwife, I see this happen every day and while it's a wonderful thing and all that, the thought of him and BM cradling their newborn baby and being all happy and loved up goes through me like a knife. Seven years isn't that long ago. And now he's off to BM's house to visit his ex-wife and the kids, eat cake that BM made and generally have a good old time with his old family.