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Christmas Eve

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My family has always celebrated the Feast of the Seven Fishes. Since dh and I have been together (8 yrs married and together 1 yr before we married) we have invited ysd to join us. She always refused for various reasons = she did not want to be part of my family. And that's ok in my book. Now, she announced that she, hubby and baby will be attending. I am livid. This is the same sd that did not have anything to do with us for 2 years. Now she wants to be part of my family. Hell No! My comment to dh was she has not been invited.

Ramble, Ramble Ramble

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just letting off steam. I have admitted to myself I wish my osd was not living in our house. She is getting under my skin more and more every day. It is the little things like I don't want a fan on the porch. I even hid them in the basement. But, osd is pretty big and she needs the fan because she is so hot. Of course she brings the fan out. Sounds so immature on my part I know. Short history we got married in our late 50's - well past the time when adult children would live with us. I really like my osd; but, she has major gambling problems and makes extremely bad choices in men.

OSD Rant

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OSD, 39 has been living with us for over a year. She lost her job due to gambling problems When she lost her job; she also lost her cell phone.(work cell phone). So, I told her ok I would add her to our plan; but, she was paying her share of the phone bill, internet, and tv. It came out to $100.00 per month. She pays nothing else to live her. Part of the agreement was that I would not have to hound her for her share; and she was to go to GA meetings. She has only attended a couple of GA meetings and that was last summer. She is 2 months behind on her phone bill with August due now.

Father's Day Vent

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I want to strangle my dh right now. Yesterday I had made plans with some girlfriends to attend a festival for a couple of hours, I told dh it is father's day do you mind. When I get home I will take you out to dinner. No problem; he had some stuff to do anyway. So dh calls me to see if I am ready to go home...which is out of character for him. Fast forward he comes to pick me up(parking is horrendous) and says osd is cooking dinner. I was like what? We had plans to go out... dh well I forgot. Realy??

Same scenario different sd - mini wife syndrome

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Here we go again with the mini wife syndrome. Only this time it is with osd. Osd (39) has been living with us for almost a year. She lost her job because of gambling problems. That's another whole story. All in all she is ok. She got a new job and does help around the house. But, I am so tired of hearing I did this and I did that. Well you live here you should do something.Big problem is she is always up in our business. Very rarely do we have any alone time. But, what bothers me the most is she acts like a mimi wife. Sometimes I feel like a visitor in my own home.

Disengagement Works

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So ysd daughter has her baby. I don't know if it was miss communication or done on purpose but; ssil never called us back to say baby was born. Of course baby's picture was posted on facebook. (which neither dh or I can see because they unfriended me and blocked dh). Anyway, dh calls sd and ssil answers her phone and dh tells him we are coming up to see the baby.
Interesting how I feel.
I felt no connection at all. I can only say disengagement works.

Youngest step daughter wants to visit us before the holiday.

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I knew it! If I went to the baby shower Ysd daughter would think everything is fine. Sure enough her thank you comes in the mail and low and behold she writes that she and her husband want to visit us before the holidays. And asked when we would be available. So, dh sets it up for Dec. 15th. Remember this is the same sd who didn't even answer our invitations to christmas or easter last year. She has not been in our home for almost 2 years. Gee, what brought this on? The pregnancy.

The same ole vent

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Ysd's baby is due soon. Low and behold I get a shower invitation in the mail. This sd barely speaks to me and has nor been in our home in almost 2 years. My dh had a chemo treatment and had a horrible reaction to the treatment. He was hospitalized for over a week. I called her. She did not come to see him; but did call ever so often. She and her dh came tro the hospital to see him after his lung surgery.

Another Vent

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So ysd and her spouse come to the hospital to visit my dh. The tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife. I admit I was standoffish and borderline rude. She has not been around for a year and waltzes in like nothing has happened. No apology - nothing. Anyway, dh is almost groveling. At one point my dh says he is cold and ysd reaches over to cover him. No way was I letting that happen. I reached over to cover him myself.

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