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SD is the Slowest Learner

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Full timer here. I am SOOOO sick and tired of SD11 living in my house full time and listening to me repeat my household rules over and over and STILL never understanding or following even the simplest of rules. BTW, I'm also trying to teach and instill lifelong values in this kid for God's sake.

Example: Turn your light off when you're not using it.
Example: Flush the toilet.
Example: Rinse your plate and put it in the dishwasher.
Example: Wash your hands before you eat.
Example: Don't waste expensive water that WE have to pay for.

Creeper Skid

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Does anyone else have a fulltime skid who is just plain creepy and difficult (IMPOSSIBLE) to be around?

DH had to go to work for 3 hours this evening. Before leaving, he told SD11 to clean her room, do homework, get ready for school, etc... So, when DH left, I let SD know and decided to take a 20 min walk with the plan of coming back to make pizza, make cookies, and watch a movie that SD would like.

CS Interstate Case

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What is that? Does that mean the state we live in will go coordinate with the state BM lives in to enforce CS? We have full custody and BM hasn't paid a dime in CS since April. She's over $4,000 behind. Our state doesn't keep us informed of anything until now, it told us it just filed an Interstate Case. No more info. Maybe deadbeat BM will finally start feeling consequences of her abandoning SD?

SD is the Caring that Keeps on Giving

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Yes, that is sarcasm. Yesterday after SD ditched DH while he was in the ER, we both sat her down and explained in very simple English (this kid has an extremely low understanding of social situations and emotions) the importance of compassion and that means sometimes you need to place your own desires on hold (like running off with you friends) so that you can be there for another person. SD just stared blankly at DH. It didn't register in that brain...But, I had hope that at a minimum, the guilt would hit a nerve.

Way to Care, SD...As Always...Way. To. Care.

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Normal self-centered pre-teen attitude doesn't even begin to describe it. SD11 (almost 12) is unusually selfish. For example, she can be standing right in front of someone watching them fall and break an ankle and she will just stare at them and ask, "So what am I going to eat? I'm hungry." True story. DH has even joked that someone could be on fire and she would just stand there and watch. I wouldn't trust her to pull a splinter out of a stuffed animal!

SD Pre Teen can be a big baby all she wants!

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SD11-soon to be 12--has been with us full time for 6 out of 11 yrs of her entire life. If my math is correct, that means she has been in our house fulltime for more years than the time she spent with BM fulltime! BM had her the first 5 yrs of SD's life then handed her over to us full time. BM has only seen/talked to SD 2-3 times since.

Does Anyone Hate the Stigma of Being the Second (or Third) One?

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Does anyone else feel like crap over the whole stigma of being SECOND or THIRD wife/husband/significant other? I recently had an encounter that went something like this, "Oh, you're the THIIIIRRRRRD spouse." Left me feeling like I was a loser and not worthy of much. And here I am....a former career woman with an adult child. Never intended to start all over and raise another kid full time--especially one that isn't mine and who hates me. But, now I'm here raising DH's horrible child full time because BM abandoned SD.

Obsessing over SD

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So tired of waking up every day and the first thing on my mind is not how I'm going to handle my day and the tasks I have for the day, but how am I going to handle SD11. Just hate that she is the first worry on my mind when I have enough other things to worry about.

Since this is a Venting Site...

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I have a vent. My SD11 must be the most strange and socially inappropriate kid in the world. It's not just recently. When I met her, she was 5 yrs old. She was strange then and she is even stranger now. Tonight I was doing dishes when I felt something brush up on my ass. Yeah, my ass. I look, and it's SD trying to squeeze between me and the sink so she can heat her food in the microwave. Is there any chance you can wait a few minutes? Or maybe say Excuse me? Thing is, in every other situation, SD goes way out of her way to avoid me. It's always so strange.

Wrong Direction

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I heard some lyrics the other day and can't stop thinking how sad. 7 yrs ago, I started this journey through step-hell pain. At first, I had no idea the pain I was walking in to. I'm so sad that I've been walking thousands of miles, only to find out I went the wrong way.

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