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I wanted to say thanks so much for all of your comments on my post

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Submitted by rachellmitch on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 7:25pm

..I was really feeling guilty for not wanting to keep them. I am generally a helpful person but at some point this all has gotten waaay out of hand. He told me if I am not doing it (keeping the kids) from the heart than don’t do it at all.. OK??? But I am DOING more than he is.. I am DOING what he isn’t even doing himself.. I do not even say ANYthing about the fact that all the responsibility of our own son is on me but that is MY child and MY Responsibility so the fact that I am doing everything for our son I don’t even think twice about.. what irritates me is having to keep our son AND The THREE.. it gets to be a lil more than i want to deal with the entire dynamic of the house is different when the kids are there. they are not "bad" kids.. but they are 5,6,&7 yr old kids that are not mine! lol

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Submitted by Hatecopycats on Wed, 10/26/2011 - 11:26pm

I havent responded to your posts but I have read them. Seriously, you are being used....plain and simple.

Even if SO has 50 50 custody of his kids...last time I looked you didn't sign off on the final divorce decree order and agree to keep their kids the 50 percent of time.

It's freaking ridiculous!! I'm angry for you.

I will be divorced on Nov 7 so I'm not on here that much but i still lurk.

The first sign that DH and would have problems??? When he wanted ME to keep 3 of the 4 skids so his EX wife could go on her honeymoon with her new husband. I wasn't even married yet and since he had to work and I run my business from home he thought I'd step right in and do it. NOT..... I set the boundaries early on BEFORE I got married.....im not a babysitter for anyone's kids except my own. No Ifs ands or buts!!

They weren't my kids so BM and DH need to make arrangements for them and be responsible for the kids THEY brought in the world!!!

My marriage didn't work out for many reasons but I want to share this with you so you never complain about keeping his kids and feeling takin advantage of......" The first time, your a victim, after that your a volunteer."

If you don't want to keep your SOs kids....DoNT keep them!!

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Submitted by cant win for losin on Thu, 10/27/2011 - 6:50am

Im sure the children feel the same way. They come over to spend time with dad.
Maybe the conversation can go with that angle.? Afterall it is the truth, and its not fair to the kids. And we all know how daddy's looooove doin whats only best for the kiiiiiidddddsss!

Ok sorry that last statement was typed with cynical sarcasam, from my personal SM issues w/ DH right now! LOL

but it is true