How many of you
believe that the hard earned money your DH pays to his X for child support is being used to actually support the child? His X has argued that she needs money for child care, but then find out she stopped using any during the school year late last year. Then her attorney says that she needs an incredible amount per week to pay for a High School kid in the summer - are you kidding. Why is that the X thinks that she is still entitled all of DHs money after the divorce...
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Some of us know the ex spends the suppport on herself
Hi Willitereverend,
Some of us figured out a long time ago, that the ex was spending the support money on herself. When she had to start providing receipts, that's when she started running into trouble. She was giving my husband some really overinflated expenses, so I started asking for the receipts. She was livid. But it actually brought her support payment down to $44 a month when they had an equal 50/50 shared custody and before that she was charging him anywhere between $350-$600 per month. We took everything to an attorney including the pay statements and tax returns. It blew her away. The problem is you don't have much control if you are paying court ordered child support. Once the money leaves your hand, that's it. In our case, we have 11 months left. Unfortunately, my SD hasn't learned the value of a dollar or any job skills. It should be for very interesting learning in the future.
Regards,
Sweetie
The SK are the victims
Sweetie:
My concern is for my SK. They are sweet kids, but they don't understand the value of a dollar and they aren't saving for college or anything. The EW convinces them to spend their money on things they really want to do or on the family because she is too poor. She likes to tell the kids that we are rich, but the reality is we don't spend more than we make. The EW, on the other hand is deeply in debt due to poor financial choices. Since the SK spend the majority of their time with her, I just hope that they see her mistakes and don't make them in their own lives.
I am jealous that you are down to 11 months for child support...I hope the emancipation from child support goes smoothly. I am really looking forward to that day for us.
There is no doubt the money is for biomom
Hi Willitereverend,
There is no doubt that most of the support goes to biomom. I spend more on my stepdaughter than my own two kids combined! And my SK doesn't even get new clothes. All she gets are hand-me-downs or consignment stuff. I listed out all of her possible expenses and it just doesn't add up. Child support is really another name for alimony. I have no problem supporting the child, but I do have a problem supporting the ex and her new husband. They need to make biomoms accountable for what they do with the money. We've asked for her to list actual expenses and biomom refuses to do so. Gee, I wonder why. And I have 10 yrs of this left to deal with. It's hard to keep resentment from building.
I've seen bitter "x" wives training the kids..
...as financial pawns. Kids signing up for post-secondary education until Mom gets a new court order for continuing support...then dropping out & hiding it and by the time Dad & second wife find out and get it back into our backlogged court system..pay legal fees..etc. Damage done and They are laughing all the way to the bank.
It was a happy day in our household...when child support payments stopped....
The "x" flaunted how she threw every penny of it away.. Trips to Cuba, Brand new sports car, New camper trailer, etc. She would give SD her bank card for the account the money was in..tell her to go fill up your car saying ..."Go Ahead..IT's On DAd. hahahaha" (She's just evil)
We got the last laugh....her showing off, throwing away BF's hard earned money..landed her in bankruptcy..and living back at her mothers......
I do believe in KARMA...