Does Stepson need to be in family portrait?
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I have 2 x children aged 2 and new baby with DH . He has one 12 yr old SS who lives with his mother and stays with us every 2nd wend . I'm just contacting a photographer to organise family pics . Is it wrong of me to not want SS in the pics ? I don't have any family pics around and I think that's partly cause I know DH will want SS included . I'm just not sure I can stand to look at pics of him on my wall . Or on side table .
I suppose I will have to as I will look bad if I don't . What do other people do ?
I know he was there before me , but just for once I wish we could just be a family just the 4 of us or at least have some pics without him .
Are you saying 1st child of
Are you saying 1st child of yours is from previous marriage/relationship? 2nd child is from you and dh?
How would you want child number 1 to feel inside his/her bio dads home? Absent of family photos????
There is your answer.
Sorry I dint write it clear .
Sorry I dint write it clear . DH has the 12 yr SS and then my 2 little ones are with DH i.e. A 2 yr old and baby . I won't exclude him. As long as I can have a few with my 2 little ones I'll be happy .
I'm going to assume in my
I'm going to assume in my answer that you're having a series of pictures taken.
Your SS is a sibling to your children. He is also one of your DH's children.
I think I would have him in the portraits, but also take pictures with just your children on their own, just your children and you and DH. Just DH and SS. Just SS. Just you and your children. Just DH and your children. Just your children (both together and separately).
I think to exclude him would be problematic - especially if he is around when the pictures are taken.
Thanks for your reply . I
Thanks for your reply . I won't exclude him I would be really happy just to have a few of my two little ones together . I guess I just got stressed at the thought SS would be in all of them .
On mother´s day my DH wanted
On mother´s day my DH wanted to take pics of all the kids with me, and he forgot SD is not mine. On mother´s day SD should have her own pic with her mom I said.
In this case, this is a memento for you, so if you don´t want to include SS, don´t do it. That´s what I would do.
I would take a variety. SK
I would take a variety. SK can be invited to come. Take lots of different combinations.
You and DH. You and your kids. DH, you and your shared children. DH and SK. Everyone. This way you can still print them all off, but don't have to hang the ones up with SK front and center on your mantle. Put all of them in an album, then just frame your faves.
After we got married, I printed a bunch of wedding photos and made collages in the living room. SD asked one day why "am I only in like 4 pics" and the rest are of you and my Dad. DH and I both explained to her that she didn't smile in ANY pictures, was crying, and had an attitude most of the time. Thus, the photographer didn't get many of her. Also, who wants to print and display pictures of a SK crying on your wedding day? No thanks! This way DH couldn't blame me for not putting pics of SD up.