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I'm a step mom and was watching step children's 3 children. Newborn, 2 year old and 8 year old cerebral palsy special needs. I watched them Monday, Tuesday's, and Wednesday's, from 5:45 am to 6:30pm. I go to their home and feed the children 3 meals, bath them and get them ready for bed. I started watching them in September and we told them $500.00 a month. Well February rolled around and the step daughter wants to file a 1099. Her dad said that is why we are watching them for cheap and no to a 1099. She got mad and said she would be looking for someone else. My husband went that evening and had talk with daughter and son in law and it came out that she thought I should be cleaning her house while I'm there. I clean up the dishes and everything I mess up while I'm there. She has not said one word since she said she didn't need me anymore since the beginning of February. She said she will quit her job and stay home. When her husband said she couldn't quit her job she pretty much told him to shut up and sit down. She called him a coward because he didn't stand up to her dad when she was ranting. Why is she acting this way? Or is it me?

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Ninji's picture

So...Your supposed to be a nanny and a maid for $500 a month? I'll take that deal. Do you live in the FL area?

Gonser72's picture

Ha nope live in Mississippi. I love the grandkids but she's always got her way. Plus everything that goes wrong it's always someone else's fault.

Thumper's picture

How much $$ are they receiving in ssdi for the poor baby with cerebral palsy? AND other gvt money? Just curious.

500.00 a month for 3 children is grossly underpaid.

Time to let her find another care giver

I could be very wrong but all of this may having something to do with a sizable tax return?

JMO

follow the money......always follow the money.

I don't know why she is acting this way, only you can give a guess or two. What do YOU think?

Gonser72's picture

I also have 3 kids, twins are 12 and my son is 15. She was told when I started what is was going to be and she agreed.

Gonser72's picture

She gets paid 23$ an hour and the husband gets paid 18$ or so an hour. My husband said that he told her the reason why their house is dirty is because they are lazy. She keeps living room, kitchen area somewhat clean because when their friends come over she wants to keep up the show. The bedrooms are another story. Dirty pampers, dirty clothes, etc. plus they have a dog and I would put him out all day. Cleaned up enough puke.

zerostepdrama's picture

Just be glad to be done with this and don't worry about it. They were using you. Don't feel bad about that.

Gonser72's picture

Thank you. Just thought I was doing them a huge favor. She is The type that you can do do do for and still not happy. I haven't watched the grandkids since 1st week of February and she hasn't acknowledged me. I don't treat people that way. It just hurts my heart that she is such a jerk. Sure miss those babies.

uofarkchick's picture

She was using your feelings of love against you and taking full advantage of your kind heart. Please do not feel bad. She is obviously a very selfish and entitled person that will continue to use and abuse you if you let her.

You are wonderful. She is a witch.

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TwoOfUs's picture

^^This^^

If you have set hours and have to go to your employer's work place, you are technically an employee, which means she should pay Social Security, Medicare, and unemployment tax as well as withhold on your wages.

If you operate a daycare and she comes to you, then you declare your business net, minus your operating expenses. You don't pay income tax on this money...only on what you pay yourself.

There is no situation in which a nanny would be a 1099 employee, and the IRS actually takes improper W9s very seriously (i.e. employers pressuring people to ACT like employees by having set hours, requirements to be in the office, etc. while not giving them the benefits that regular employees get). They have an entire whistleblowers form set up on their website for just this kind of thing.

The only thing Babbybugged is wrong about is that she CAN claim a deduction for child care, and she doesn't even have to give you a 1099 to do so. What I don't get is why she doesn't just claim the Dependent Care Credit and be done with it.

You should show her this: https://www.irs.gov/uac/ten-things-to-know-about-the-child-and-dependent...

Direct her attention to Item #10 in particular.

Oh, nevermind. You should just let her stew in her own ignorance.

Acratopotes's picture

Gonser - your SD used you as cheap labor, well you are not doing it anymore, and make sure it never happens again.