18 year old stepson
This is my last hope. I am so ready to just walk out. I have been with my hubby going on 14 years. His 18y/o son. came to live with us 4 months ago. worst 4 months ever. He is lazy, slob. he uses his dad for everything he can. He even told me , how he uses his dads heart ageist him.. ugh. He does everything he can to upset me. He even told us,how he likes to aggravate me. he likes seeing me mad and upset. His dad asked him why? He said he likes it. but when i say something to him or say no to him. He runs to daddy and tells him That I"M being mean again and on his *&%$. . I have talked to my hubby, he acts like he understands and will help me but. NO. he gets mad at me. I have tried talking to the ss. i have tried the nice guy, nope. i have tried everything i know how to get along with this kid. I am ready to just leave. let them have each other. He is a 18 year old punk. he knows it all. I have talked to my hubby about the games he plays with me and how it bothers me. my hubby WONT do anything to upset HIS son. I am sick and tied of this. I stay in my room and boom. the brat comes in and acts like it's his room. yet dad does nothing. I am done talking.I wish he would just go home to his mom. Why wont dad stick up for me? why is it ok,for the ss to aggravate me? why should i stay? I have done more than 100 percent with this.
My hubby feels bad for not being there for his boys. now he can't say no to them. and the 18 ss knows this. I give rules for the 18 ss. but NO. he don't have to. I am living here in my home,mad ,aggravated and done. I am so unhappy. How long does this have to go on? Can i just tell him to go? my hubby will go with him i'm sure of it
Why would you want to stay
Why would you want to stay with someone that would pick their lazy as* 18 YO kid over you any way?
I am all for supporting an adult child that is trying to do good but there is no way possible I will support anyone no matter how good their trying to be if they are disrespecting me in my own home.
If said SS is doing so crappy now even if you get rid of him tomorrow, it isn't like he will go away for ever and more than likely the odds are not in your favor that he will suddenly become successful and not mooch off your DH for the rest of his life.
If it is your home then you
If it is your home then you need to put SS out. If DH doesn't like it, he can follow. I bet it won't take long for DH to run back.
But there is NO way another adult or child would come in my home and disrespect me like that.
The old saying goes...people will only treat you how you allow them to treat you. Don't allow it.
Stand your ground and have SS removed from your home.
My home. and you are right.
My home. and you are right. everyone is telling me what i already knew. I was just looking for hope. I was just hoping it didn't have to come to this. I am putting my foot down today. wish me luck.
" Why wont dad stick up for
" Why wont dad stick up for me? "
You need to stick up (stand up) for yourself. Say what you mean, mean what you say. This is a full grown adult, not a minor child.
It's not *us* you need to be telling you're considering leaving... tell your husband. There needs to be an exit plan for this young man (with respectful behavior starting immediately) or you'll have to make your self exit plan for you. You do not intend to continue on as the last four months have been.
This is your home. You are being treated rudely and being disrespected by both SS and Dh. You can't live like this. You won't live like this and you won't live in a battle zone with a punk. The time for husband to play daddy to a boy are gone and over. SS is an adult acting a child.
I did . I stood up and booted
I did . I stood up and booted them both out. Thank you All of you
How did he take it? A bit of
How did he take it? A bit of begging or did he just cling to man-baby-son and tuck his tail between his legs?
It probably feels like a very terrible day for you but really it is your Independence Day. You did the right thing.