Sexless pregnancy while I help with everything!

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So my fiance is 23 weeks. We haven't been intamite at all since week 3. Meanwhile I wake up every morning to take care of her/our 4 year old! How do I cope? I'm new to being a dad to her daughter I have another otw and all I want is the only thing I can't have... sex! It sounds selfish but four months in and six to go I'm going crazy!

Didn't you just post this

Didn't you just post this same issue a little over a week ago? :?

I've noticed the people in

I've noticed the people in this forum are incredibly mean. What's the point of this forum?

Did you read his previous

Did you read his previous post???
Were we mean 2 days ago or did you just notice today?

What do you define as mean?

What do you define as mean? We are a predominately female board and when a man complains that his wife isn't putting out enough because she's growing a fetus, we'll get pretty down and dirty about it. I don't think it's mean. If he didn't want to deal with a pregnancy, he should have wrapped it.

Your sarcasm is so clever.

You're right. Pregnancy is

You're right. Pregnancy is totally ALWAYS the males fault.

I can't come up with a cite

I can't come up with a cite for this, but there used to be a tribe of male warriors who prayed to their gods that, if captured, their captors wouldn't turn them over to the women.

Bear that in mind when you go looking for sympathy.

Yeah, I read it. Still think

Yeah, I read it. Still think you guys are assholes though. And not all women are the same during pregnancy.

They aren't. Some women are

They aren't. Some women are so sick that they literally can't get out of bed and take every precaution only to lose the baby late in the pregnancy. Some women die. It could be so much worse. He should be thanking God (or whatever he believes in) that his wife and baby are healthy.

You're right. People die all

You're right. People die all the time from giving their spouse attention.

I think you missed my point.

I think you missed my point. While lack of sex during pregnancy can be frustrating, it's just not that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things. And if it is really that big of a deal, it might be time to examine priorities. I'd be more pissed about taking care of a four year old that isn't mine than not getting my freak on. But that isn't the main focus of the OP's post. The focus is on a lack of booty.

Same here! I used to take a

Same here! I used to take a sleep aid every now and then until one night I woke up to my (ex) husband taking my PJs off. Having my husband attempt to rape me killed any thought of ever touching him again. He was sleeping with every whore in the county so I don't know why he ever tried to get any from me.

You don't have to be pregnant

You don't have to be pregnant to realize that everyone is affected by medical shit differently. Even a holier than thou pregnancy.

You're right I couldn't possible realize a difference from this forum and others within two days. It's an impossibility.

so, if you think we are all

so, if you think we are all assholes, you'll be leaving us soon?

BYE FELICIA!!

OH look, some common sense.

I was going to say what

I was going to say what happens when the mom DOES want sex? Does he then NOT have the right to deny her sex just because she's preg and he's the dad? NO, he gets to say NO if he wants.

Pretty sure he never used the

Pretty sure he never used the term 'hot monkey sex'. Also seems like she's just ignoring him from the post. Just cause you're pregnant doesn't mean you get to emotionally neglect people. That's why you have a fucking spouse in the first place. Not to get pregnant and ignore someone.

And it's totally NOT possible that any woman would ever milk her pregnancy. Cause women are holy creatures, immune from corruption.

No. I'm a woman so I can't

No. I'm a woman so I can't really get people pregnant.

You know how many posts I've

You know how many posts I've seen in stepparent forums where FEMALES are talking about there jealousy towards their stepchildren? Same thing! But I guess men aren't allowed to feel jealous and women are?

The BioDad of the SD is

The BioDad of the SD is apparently a deadbeat as OP said BD dropped out of the picture after OP's fiancé became pregnant.

So. No help from the BD. Unless there is a grandparent or aunt/uncle who can care for the 4YO, OP is it.

Is OP's fiancé experiencing a difficult pregnancy? Yes, she's 23 weeks, but may still be experiencing sickness. Perhaps the only energy she can muster is the energy to give attention to her 4yo daughter, whom OP obviously resents.

OP, when looking at a lifetime together, a few months is a drop in the bucket. I would assume that, since you are engaged, this pregnancy is a result of you and your fiancé's love for one another. Try to focus on the big picture. Don't punish a 4yo little girl who is probably very confused as to why her Daddy doesn't want to see her any more.

I suggest you buy some magazines and/or movies and...take matters into your own hands.

Eloquently put, ma'am.

Haha, 'trigger' people? And

Haha, 'trigger' people?

And no I'm not the same person. But you'd like to think the world is that limited, wouldn't you?

I was kinda thinking the same

I was kinda thinking the same thing.
Have you ever gone back through the REALLY old posts? The trolls on there are hilarious. There's this man and woman, which I think is actually just one messed up person, that are dating and have a kid together that both belong to the board and just post complaints about each other constantly. It's so trashy that it's funny, like Jersey Shore.

I think the OP just doesn't

I think the OP just doesn't like women much.
We should thank him for his insight into how sensitive he is, I'm sure his pregnant GF is fully aware of his issue.

I think that you guys just

I think that you guys just like to play victim, exaggerate and be treated like "queens".

I definitely said that I'm

I definitely said that I'm being neglected and abused? Again, you're so clever?

It's great that you couldn't

It's great that you couldn't come up with that insult until I brought it up.

Yes, we do all of these

Yes, we do all of these things and more so please find a new board that suits your fancy.

"A ritual drama is a dramatic

"A ritual drama is a dramatic performance (employing story, dialogue, and impersonation) with a plot taken from the myth of the god in whose honor it is enacted. They are performed in public as part of the liturgy of a festival honoring the particular deity. Originally performed at a sanctuary sacred to that deity or a site endowed with divine importance by the enacted story, they are later carried to other sites."

~settles back with hot popcorn and cold cider~

You know how to use google!

You know how to use google! Good for you!

OP, your math is wrong. If

OP, your math is wrong. If she's 23 weeks and there are roughly 4 weeks in every month then she's 5, almost 6, months pregnant.
But anyway... have you considered that she is turned off by your attitude? Just a thought.

I had this fight with my mom.

I had this fight with my mom. She had three babies and she still thought it was only 9 months. 40 weeks divided by 4 is NOT 9!

OP, there is something all

OP, there is something all future/current stepparents have to realize.

You are with someone who has a child by someone else. It does not matter if your partner is the CP (Custodial Parent) or NCP (Non Custodial Parent).

There is always a possibility that one parent will have 100% custody of the child/children and there is NO involvement from the other parent (deadbeat, death...).

If you cannot live with this, start looking for a way to support your future child and exit from your fiancé's life.

I just swept the cobwebs out

I just swept the cobwebs out of the old forums and polished the text on the newer ones, so where to I go to get my sex for being such a domesticated guy???????? }:)

I love sarcasm, and even

I love sarcasm, and even better when others recognize it, hate having to explain something was a joke, Geeez.

gigglesnorts you are

*gigglesnorts*

you are awesome.

Domesticated is a sad term to

Domesticated is a sad term to have to use for us guys, but accurate in most cases. I do all kinds of stuff around the house, actually sometimes more that DW but I don't see it as being well trained or domesticated, it's my home as well and don't like living like a pig, plus DW and I are a team and marriage is not 50/50 just do what needs to get done. Sex is just a benefit of the relationship, and if she doesn't want to or can't she also has no problem with me taking care of myself and vice versa, we are still human after all.

Thatguy, if you're having

Thatguy, if you're having issues not getting sex during pregnancy you are going to be soooooo disappointed with life. I am assuming you are maybe twenty something, dude women can not want sex for so many different reasons, to hot, to cold, the bachelor gave that slut a rose, the list goes on and on get used to it and take matters into your own hands. However consider this, how should she react say you become disabled or permanently ill in some capacity where sex is the least thing on your mind? Just saying, you have to look at it from her perspective. I am disabled have been for over 30 years, even if I want to sometimes sex isn't in the cards, DW understands and vice versa, I just got turned down this past weekend, not whining about it here (the ladies would tear me a new one).

Are these just excuses he is

Are these just excuses he is using or legitimate complaints? Being too exhausted to run after a quicky when you are used to running 3-4 times a week does not sound normal. If it is legitimate he should maybe talk to a doctor about it. I've never heard of someone being that exhausted from sex.

You literally sound like a 15

You literally sound like a 15 year old.

I'm at work so I don't have

I'm at work so I don't have time to read everyone's comments on here, but I will once I'm home.

If she's not giving him sex, where else is he supposed to go for it? I was raised in a religious home, and was always raised with the understanding that you're not supposed to withhold sex from your husband, or wife. It's not supposed to be something that you reward or punish your spouse with. I'm not trying to drag religion into this conversation, but it is how I was raised. I think his fiancé is on a slippery slope with forcing her fiancé to go elsewhere to fulfill his needs. On the other hand, I'm not saying that that's ok for him to do that. If she's tired and exhausted, maybe try and help her out more. I've never been pregnant so I can't talk to how she's feeling physically. For women, sex or foreplay, starts outside the bedroom. Maybe look at what you can do to help her out more. Or maybe she's self conscious of her body and the changes it's going through. Buy her flowers and make her FEEL beautiful.

I think on occasion to make

I think on occasion to make her man happy yes she should. What if she decided that she didn't feel like having sex for the rest of her life. Then would it still be okay for her to never have sex with him. I've seen too many marriages end due to a lack of intimacy. Happens every day.

No one is owed sex. Not even

No one is owed sex. Not even a spouse. Not having sex within a relationship though can cause issues in that relationship (or conversely be a sign of issues). Eventually that may lead to the break down of the relationship, but that still does not mean that anyone deserves sex or is obliged to have sex with anyone else. Sex should be freely and willingly entered into. If not it is called rape at worst, coersion at best. It has been established for a good few years now that marital rape is just as illegal and imoral as any other form of rape.

This is not a popular point

This is not a popular point of view but I agree with you. Your partner is the one that needs to handle all your sexual needs. Hey I'm not saying every night but maybe just some form of sex occasionally throughout the pregnancy. If you man is not getting it from you I don't feel he is forced to go elsewhere but I would imagine the temptation would be much stronger. 9 monts is is a very long time to go without intimacy. Especially for a guy. I'm a woman and if my man would not have sex with me for Nine months I would not be happy. I'm not saying intercourse even. Just anything. Some form of intimacy. She is pregnant. Not disabled. She is not unable to have sex she just doesn't want to. She is ignoring him and his needs all together. There has to be a happy medium.

Ok now you can all hate me. !!

I have been pregnant. Yes. I

I have been pregnant. Yes. I think there may be other issues I the relationship and maybe that's why the wife doesn't want to have sex. This guy does seem a bit on the immature side. He needs to talk to his wife about it openly.

Here's another unpopular

Here's another unpopular point of view: Internet porn and the availability of things like fleshlights are a big part of the problem. What, exactly, makes this guy think he's entitled to anything except to climb up into the privacy of a tree and get one off with a ripe mango?

Sorry, I don't mean to go all Carrie Nation on y'all but it's just wrong to think that images of trafficked girls are a solution for the problems of entitled horndogs.

self service young man - self

self service young man - self service....

sit on your hands till they are dead then it will feel like some one else is doing it

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