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Should I even be this offended?

RayRay's picture

So for over 2 weeks SS7 has been pretty darn great. I mean, I thought we had turned a corner and were on the way to happily ever after land. I was dead wrong. Yesterday he had a hate filled screaming and defiance session for over 3 hours. All, this started because he could not watch t.v. as he had gotten into trouble at his day camp for fighting and not listening. He proceeded to tell me he wanted to live with his mom. Ok that a normal response from him I can deal. Then he went on to tell me how mean I was, how I don't know what love is, that he wishes his dad didn't love me, that I would just leave, etc. All of this I let just roll off my back. Then he went on to calling SD14 a fag. She wasn't even involved in the disagreement to begin with but I guess he felt she was being excluded from the hate storm and that just wasn't fair. I was still keeping my cool for the most part. In response to me explaining that I would love for him to go see his mom when she got herself together and was able to provide for him he said..YOUR DADDY IS DEAD..HAHAHAHAHA. Then he made fun of my dead dad. I mean how low can a nearly eight year old boy go? His punishment is not being allowed to go to the beach with us this weekend. I feel a tiny bit bad about him not coming with us but I also feel like I need to make a point that you don't make fun of people's dead parents. I mean what if he did that to some child who had just lost their mother or father? So, should I still be offended that this kid decided that it was funny to make fun of my father being dead?

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DaizyDuke's picture

WTH?? BS is 6.5 and I can't imagine him saying any of these things! Where in the world did SS learn to speak like this???

RayRay's picture

SS has been speaking like this since I met him. He was telling me FU when he was 5. That has thankfully stopped. He was allowed to watch adult movies and listen to adult conversation for the first few years of his life and it's been a long uphill battle to get him on track. He had even spit and hit me. He hasn't don that in a year though. Very slow progress.

DaizyDuke's picture

Yeah but where does a 5 year old learn fuck you from?? Who is speaking to whom like that that he is modeling??

RayRay's picture

This was when BM had some contact with him before I came along. She had screaming fights in front of kids with her boyfriends. Also, the movies he was allowed to watch were terrible. Most teenagers shouldn't have been watching this stuff. I divided the movies by rating and content a couple years ago and he went bananas. He is used to being policed on that now.

RayRay's picture

He told him no beach. That he was disappointed. The usual pep talk he gives him about being good and all. I was actually surprised he agreed with me about SS not going with us to the beach.

RayRay's picture

We did tell him if he keeps this attitude up he will get his teeth knocked out of his head by someone. His reply was he didn't care. At that moment I wanted to be the person doing the knocking out of teeth. It just boggles my mind how he can be so sweet and then so frigging hateful and nasty the next moment!

RayRay's picture

All kinds of terrible things crossed my mind. It is difficult to stay calm when he says n does these things.

Maxwell09's picture

It sounds like he was trying to think of anything that could get a rise out of you. You didn't get upset when he said he wanted to live with his mom, his sister/you didn't get involved when he tried dragging her in so then he turned to something personal he knew hurt you. I think your punishment of making him stay home is fair if not a bit easy on him. I personally would cut out all games, tvs, e.c., until he apologized AND I thought he actually meant it. Make him write an apology whils y'all are at the beach. And make sure whoever is watching while y'all are going is going to make it a punishment.

RayRay's picture

Meemee's is where he will be staying. If we could get that woman to ever punish him we might not have such a defiant child. She says it ain't just her place to discipline him. She is pretty much the only choice we have for a baby sitter