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Standing my ground- how long will this swing in favour last?

Amcc13's picture

So this is an accompaniment to my last two blogs: I stood firm on not goin to the party and went out with my friends instead. Had the best night!
partner tells me the next day he and his mom and dad will be sitting down before they go back to Canada. They sat down and afterwards partner attitude has totally changed!!! It's such a 180 my head is spinning
He has asked his mom to be more respectful of our plans and to give some space when I do stuff with the kids. His dad mediated everything and the points got across. She did not like being told this, went on about how she is always there for the kids etc. Afterwards on the phone to me he is all like 'oh I guess I didn't realise until the conversation how much of a threat my mom thinks you are'

I am honestly blown away by this about face. For the last three and half years it has been my fault and I need to do this and that to get on with his mom and he can't understand us not getting on , his ex was apparently able to so why not me, etc. Things had originally started okay with his mom and me and then it all went pear shaped- I honestly don't know why but I know that first time we met she liked me then next time she started being disrespectful and in the past three years he has not intervened. He only intervened this time cause I took action and created consequences.

My concern is now this: I feel like this is a flash in the pan with the hope of bringing me back on side. And he may be just saying what I want to hear or something like that. I can't help but wonder when the pendulum will swing back against me and he will go back to his mothers side like he has been before

I wonder does anyone have any advice on this???

Also in conjunction to this I now have two steps who can suddenly say please and thank you! Nearly to the point of overboard! Was so happy that I made a cake for everyone !

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Amcc13's picture

Yep it seems action does truly speak louder than words in this case. I will enjoy the upswing for now I guess
I don't know if he would do counselling he did it with ex and that didn't help
Maybe it's something I should even try myself for boundary sake

I do think some of this is definitely placating me so life can go on as normal
And in time I prob will re engaged with his family - I like his dad an cause I had to stay away there were no chats or anything this time
However it will be on my own time and own terms