DH treats SS like God. Is that not harmful?
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SS9 wakes up this morning and doesn't want to go to camp. No, he's not sick. He just doesn't want to go. DH acts like it's the word of God and comes into my room (where I'm throwing up with the flu) and asks me if I mind to take care of SS9 today. No, I won't, not today. "Well, Grandma's not available, his mom's not available, so what am I supposed to do?" Honestly, why doesn't it occur to him to just say no and tell SS9 to go to camp. He spends 45 minutes calling around for a sitter and making me feel guilty, and eventually he's late taking SS to camp and late to work which is apparently my fault because if I'd just said yes everyone would have been happy.
Why don't I count? Why do DH's give skids so much power in the family?
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My God you are singing my
My God you are singing my song. DH's often Guilt Parent and in doing so give children power they shouldn't have and that they learn to manipulate and work to their favor. And they disrespect their new spouses in the process. (Yet amazingly they want us to bond with these monsters they are creating). You are sick and not in position to be babysitting anyone. In fact, it'd be nice if DH would stay home and take care of YOU. Yet he put on the big act of trying to guilt you into doing it and for no reason at all! They are paying for camp, send the brat to camp!
I had two coworkers in the past week have unexpected deaths in their immediate family. One lost TWO sisters to a car accident and the other lost a nephew to murder (nephew was heading to 1st year of college and lived with him). They are both out of work for the next few weeks coping with this so others are rotating coverage. Next week is mine. PseudoSS8 is due to come this weekend for a week. I work from home so DH assumes I'm the automatic babysitter. I told him No I couldn't do it because I'll have a triple load at work due to the tragedies of my teammates. Plus vacation starts Thursday and I have a 5hr flight across the country Thursday morning so I have to prepare for a 9 day trip. I offered to watch PSS8 THIS week instead as it's an easier week for me. DH refused to switch weeks. He didn't want to 'disappoint' that miscellaneous brat he claims so instead he's going to burn up his vacation time (there goes our spring trip as he doesn't get new vac until July) and watch this kid next week. What was so bad about switching weeks or just cancelling the visit altogether? It was first time I ever asked him to rearrange on my behalf and he didn't do it. It's getting really old.
Screw DH's.
I get what you're saying, but
I get what you're saying, but DH doesn't treat me like a "doormat" in any other way other than at times like this. Normally, he is completely respectful of me, my decisions, my career, and will go out of his way if he gets an inclination as to what I might want. That's why i wonder--what is it about this situation that's making him suddenly blind to me?
You did exactly what I would
You did exactly what I would have done. NO WAY. Even if I was not sick, I am not doing it. His child, he needs to stay home, if in fact skid is sick. Sounds like SS wasnt sick anyway, just wanted his way again. DH needs to understand this is HIS responsibility. Would he do that for your kids (if you have them)? Most men would not skip work to stay home with a skid, and if they were the ones sick and you asked them to watch your child for the day, YEAH RIGHT. Would never happen. Put the shoe on the other foot.
Well, God forbid he actually
Well, God forbid he actually be a parent and risk his son being unhappy with him.
I hope when SS grows up and gets a job, he has a boss that is just as lenient as your DH.