My SS's BM has recently been very nice to my DH. When we first got together 4 years ago she was a total B. she would keep the SS from my DH. Made everything impossible. Her sudden acts of kindness have me very skeptical. I know my SS is impossible to deal with and makes me want to jump off a bridge, but I'm sure his BM has loving feelings towards her offspring. I thought at first she was just trying to pawn him off so she didn't have to deal with his behavior, but I think she is doing it to start problems in our marriage. She is always wanting us to do things together now all of a sudden. She texts him about every little thing that goes on in SS life day to day. He feeds right into it and does everything she asks of him... Part of me wants to tell him I'm willing to get a divorce, so he can be up her ass 24/7 and be with his BS 24/7. He adopted my first son and we have a BS together, but his first BS is his major priority. I really can't stand the vindictive BM! Pretty sure most of us SMs feel this way! }:)

My SS's BM has recently been very nice to my DH. When we first got together 4 years ago she was a total B. she would keep the SS from my DH. Made everything impossible. Her sudden acts of kindness have me very skeptical. I know my SS is impossible to deal with and makes me want to jump off a bridge, but I'm sure his BM has loving feelings towards her offspring. I thought at first she was just trying to pawn him off so she didn't have to deal with his behavior, but I think she is doing it to start problems in our marriage. She is always wanting us to do things together now all of a sudden. She texts him about every little thing that goes on in SS life day to day. He feeds right into it and does everything she asks of him... Part of me wants to tell him I'm willing to get a divorce, so he can be up her ass 24/7 and be with his BS 24/7. He adopted my first son and we have a BS together, but his first BS is his major priority. I really can't stand the vindictive BM! Pretty sure most of us SMs feel this way! }:)

Im in the same boat. However even with bm, on my end, with a guy married or what have you she still tries things. I remember one day we had dropped off ss,3 at the time, she lived with my mil with her 2nd husband and their newborn baby. Talk about an aqward night cause they live 8 hours away from us. My husband and i got up before everyone and went to the store to get stuff to make breakfast. When we got back an hour later bm got all gussied up in a slutty outfit. it was a mini skirt that showed the bottom of her butt and a white button up shirt that she tied to shorten and only buttoned like one of the buttons. She kept bending over so her butt was facing my hubby and lifting her skirt toward him. I trust my husband so i was not worried about anything happening. it was just an uncomfortable situation that made it more uncomfortable. I asked my husband on our way home if he saw any of it and he really had no clue what she was doing. He said he walked in and saw that outfit on her and didnt look again because it was there to piss me off and it was not something he wanted to see. BM did all this with her husband sitting less than 10 feet away from her. He divorced her 2 weeks later. So my point is bm have this thing with baby daddies no matter what. As long as you trust your husband just get entertainment out of it cause she is being a needy desperate witch and it hurts her to see him happy with someone else.

My DH told BM that he didn't want kids with her and after trying to make it work they mutually broke up. Even though she had a bf and and claimed she was happy for DH that he has found someone (me) she still goes absolutely off her rocker if they are ever on the phone and she hears my voice... And I mean hears anything I say even if I said I'm going to the shops.

I don't know if she has feelings for DH but I kinda think its more jealousy. Jealous that he never wanted to experience his first child with her or marry her and now he has found someone he truly loves and wants to share it with. I think that's why she is with her bf and is trying so hard to cut us off so she can have her little "normal" family.

i don't think bm REALLY wants my dh back (it sure can look like it though), she just wants the status. i think bm's know how to entice men and will use whatever they can to get them to consider them again. it's an ego thing that they try to throw in the face of the second wife..."see? i will ALWAYS have this man" kinda thing. cannot stand the thought that even though they have a child together (which is a hook alot of women use in getting a man in the first place), this man has absolutely no interest in them, other than that kid. it is your dh's JOB to make sure she knows this. it is only after bm gets this message and comes to terms with it (if ever), that she will back off and live her own life, whether she has a man or not. if she continues, it's because your dh is giving her some sort of signal that it's ok to continue trying. oh, she'll continue trying to feel which way the wind blows with him when she feels at her lowest indefitely. it's your dh's job to put her down each and every time.

In my case I know BM doesn't really want DH per se, it's the thrill of it and oh yeah, she knows it would hurt me. Hell, the first couple of months DH & I were together she told me several times he was still tring to sleep with her (LIE!). She just likes getting attention from men...little does she realize DH hates her with every bone in his body.

Luckily they hardly ever have any interaction, so she can continue to dupe her fourth husband...

Its been 11 years since DH and Snaggletooth broke up, but she still acts like woman scorned.

She is remarried, with one child and another on the way. Idiocy knows no bounds and really- how pathetic is she that she can't let go?? Your BM is so sad. (so is mine- LOL!!)

She can obsess all she wants, my husband is not stupid. }:)