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wth was I thinking's picture

BM calls last night while DH is in the shower, as he had just gotten home from work. I hit ignore. That felt good. He noticed it about 10 minutes after he got out, and called her back. He talked to her about 15 minutes. Conversation flowed like this;
First, she called to bitch at him about some homework assignment that didn't get finished on Sunday morning, as he did not know YSD had it. To me, this seemed a pretty minor offense, especially considering it was also the first time it has ever happened. Really didn't warrant a phone call/bitch session. Whatever, she was just trying to make him feel guilty to build up for the follow up question...

Can you give me money for skids' joint birthday party coming up? According to skids, they are renting a limo to take them somewhere, some ridiculously overblown event for a 9 and 10 year old. But, whatever, I shudder to think what will happen when they turn 16. BM is bad at budgeting, and looooves to spend, and is still not accustomed to DH not being her ATM machine. He told her no. I was so proud of him. Not long ago he would have just said 'how much?'

And her final request was that she needs to work one evening later this week, she wanted him to drive to her place, in rush hour (during that time, our house to hers is the way traffic is going, so it takes like an hour or more for what is normally a 20 minute drive)pick them up, bring them back to our place, and then bring them back to her house a couple hours later. He told her that she could text him when she was on her way to our home with them, and she could pick them up after she finished working.

He really has come a long way in dealing with her bullshit, she ran his life for 11 years, she still tries, and I KNOW it pisses her off when it doesn't work.

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wth was I thinking's picture

Typical guilt drama on the money part, "oh, ok, I just thought you would want to contribute to your kids' party blah blah..." As for the driving stuff, she just said she 'would figure it out and let him know'. Wtf ever... Only downside was that he was visibly upset by the whole fiasco. I told him not to stress it, that she is just trying to get to him, because she knows how, and she hates him more than she loves her kids. He said I was right, and about 5 minutes later he seemed find for the rest of the night.

HadEnoughx5's picture

Congrats to your DH!!!

I also want to say thanks for posting that "she hates him more than she loves her kids". I never looked at it in that way before. Call me slow, lol :?

Unfreakingreal's picture

15 minutes is a LONG phone call. That in itself would have pissed me off.
Kudos to him for shutting her down.

wth was I thinking's picture

For some reason even the most simple question/whatever with her takes forever. It's bizarre, but they will talk in circles over the same little thing forever. He has been so much better about keeping it to text only with her lately, or communicating through the skids, but she got him last night.

Tuff Noogies's picture

*high five* to your dh! it's wonderful to watch a man 'standing up' like that- gives you all kinds of warm fuzzies Smile