He is not close to his family I have lots of friends. Should I go and stay elsewhere? I can sell the house from underneath him. It is mine from before our marriage. I'm trying to avoid too much disruption for my son and to make it clear i mean it. My previous ex ( we are still friendly for kids) says I can stay with him and his gf or he will get him out but I've had enough aggression. And his relationship is new, I don't want to and waves for him . Help??

I e told him he just says go on then. I may have to. Or wait tillhe goes out and lock him out? Why do I have to behave like him? Is that the only behaviour he recognises?

Thanks for your support. I may need some more later!

He will start a fight with anyone who comes in. Thanks for all your support. Never felt so alone. It you all help

The police will remove him, since I pointed that out he's being calm. Won't last though. Thank you all x

I am the only name on the mortgage and land registry. I have to go to court. Takes twelve weeks but a guaranteed eviction. If violent the police will remove and put a restraining order in place. Trying to avoid that. But am presently locked in the bathroom with him screaming ugly fat ( I'm not) c..t moose stupid evil etc etc. you get the picture. My kids are at friends by the way. Thank god for my iPad and headphones.. Could be a long night!!

He's fell asleep now. All that shouting wore him out. If fine I didn't hear most of it thanks to headphones. But everyone who needs to will, I tape it on my phone. Not that he knows that such a shame it's come to this. I loved him so when we got married. Obviously he wasn't feeling the same. Off to bed now. Thank you all

I don't know what else to do. I have phoned 101 uks non emergency line and they said if he's calm they won't do anything. Take the take to the courthouse on Monday and see icing cancer a injunction. Unless he starts again I can't do anything

I told them what the tape said but they said he's calm now. My sister is on her way. She's better than any male and H is actually intimidated by her. He tends to shut up around her

My sister is pretty fed up with me for staying. That's why she is a last resort. But she wants best for me and she won't put up with him. She's single so she brought her dog and a LOT of stuff. She said it may take weeks and she's here for the duration. I don't want it to turn into a bully fest against him though. Will let you know I'm ok

I will. I'm harder now, but I do still love him. But he doesn't and he said it. He didnt mean it he said but he did. That was enough for me and what prompted me to ask for the divorce.

What he can be I guess, when he's not acting like this of course. I believe that we have to choose to behave abusive. Unless its the reactive sort it must be a choice. That means he chose to hurt me and doesn't love me. I was hoping he would change his mind. Like my counsellor Said, I love the man I though he was not the man he actually is. That's why we end up so confused I think. But apparently you don't get your mind in order till you are apart from them. I've read enough posts to know that people always feel better when they leave. Just takes time

You don't need to describe the emotional pain. I feel absolutely heart broken. I didn't ever think that someone like me could ever feel like this, I am or was so sure of myself and confident. Can't believe that a man can reduce me. Today I watched my 18 month old son merrily playing with his cars while my H screamed and slammed his fist into everything and I threw a glass. And it struck me that he wasn't reacting. He thinks it is normal. He deserves more it will be his face I see every time I get weak because I do not want my beautiful boy to think that this is all ok. Thank you oldone. I hear you