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I wish I would have found this site 5 years ago...

SRS177's picture

But, then again, I would have been on here like every 5 minutes. Now, it is just too late. So, my kids and I put in paperwork to go back to active duty military. They are very excited about it and I'm getting very excited about it. We have no family close so nothing to hold us here other than the mortgage I share with DH. Since, I told him that I put in the paperwork, he has said no more than 5 words to me each day. He is more concerned about what the dogs are doing than me or the kids. SS17 is getting worse, he blatantly comes walks in the door with the cigarette smoke trail as well as asks BD11 when we are leaving. I'm sure that DH has told SD11 and BM by now and so everyone knows and kids and I haven't even gotten approval back from AF yet. So, now everyday, I just try to avoid SS17 and choose my words with DH. I tried to initiate Adult R a couple of days ago and got nothing. It has now been almost 3 months and no Adult R for me. DH complains he hates his job, but hours are getting longer and longer and even caught him lying last week when I saw him drive by about 6:20 (he used to leave work @ 5:30) and he was heading toward work. I called to ask him what he was doing and he said he was just leaving. I said leaving where and he says, "Oh you know leaving work." I said well that's funny you just got there. After a few seconds of stuttering and asking me what I'm talking about, I informed him that I saw him driving toward work five minutes ago. He made up a quick excuse that he had to take SS17 to his friends. So, I go to my 8 year olds program at school and about an hour or so later, I'm heading to the store to pick up something quick for dinner which happens to go by his work and who should I see driving toward me @ 7:30 but yes... DH. He tries to call, the phone rings twice and he hangs up. When i get home, he tries to tell me some story about how he had to take SS17 somewhere for sommething, etc. Well, since that last week, he has talked to me even less, continues the extremely long hours at work and is only interested in SS17, SD11 and dogs.

So, needless to say, kids and I are not so patiently awaiting word and packing our bags. After five years.. I can't take anymore.

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livingontheedge's picture

SRS,
While reading your post I could just picture the situation perfectly because it sounds just like my house. Except my SS is 20 and the part about the smoke following him in the door is soooo like my house. SS20 is so disrespectful to me and my BS11 its crazy and BF says or does nothing about it he actually comes up with excuses to make things my fault. How did you ever last 5 years, I am only going on 1 year living with BF and SS and I have had enough. I am looking for a way out!!!

melis070179's picture

Wow, thats quite a story! I don't know anything about what led to this for you, but I hope you and your kids will be happier once the move is made. I take it this means divorce?

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"