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skye22's picture

My stepson spent the weekend with us. My husband had to work on saturday morning. This is the time I clean the house each week. When ss is visiting he helps me. Well we were going through his clothes to see which ones he has outgrown when he suddenly just said "mom" I looked at him and replyed "what." He didn't say anything. SO I went back to folding clothes. A minute last he said it again. I said "what" again. He just looked at me and smiled. The rest of the weekend I was Nicole again. What does this mean? It was almost like he was just testing the idea or something.

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Nise's picture

My girls do that sometimes too…they did it more when they were younger around 3-4 yrs…I think it is just his way of telling you that he sees you as a mother figure in his life…I used to correct them at first b/c quite honestly it made me VERY uncomfortable (i.e. what if they did it in front of their mom and she thought that I had encouraged it?!) but I came to the conclusion that it really does more harm than good to correct them and I started to just feel good about the fact that they saw me in that light…

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skye22's picture

Ya, it was different but nice. I would never force him to call me mom but I have no problem if he decides to do so on his own.

Nise's picture

I guess I’m a little touchy/sensitive regarding this issue…I don’t have any bio kids but I can only imagine what it would feel like to hear them calling some other person mom…no matter how good they were to them…I think the best thing to do is come up with another meaningful nick name to be used….

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lovin-life's picture

Mine will refer to hubby 3rd party as my Dad....or if someone else refers to him as "your Dad"...my kids don't correct them. I think its just easier for them...but they are mindful of their real "dads" feelings.

After a weekend Dad visit..they have "slipped" out of habit from the weekend refered to hubby as "Dad"...usually they laugh and say "I mean ****** "....

We're pretty laid back about it all....

happy mom's picture

I'm the opposite, when SS calls me mom by accident I get irritated. I don't want to be called and be reminded of his mother. Sorry that's just how I react. I don't acknowledge it when he calls me mom, cause I know it's by mistake. I prefer him to call me aunty.

-happy mom