I'm feeling really sad today. I have been married to my DH for 7 years and we have been together for 9. His daughter is 13. There is a LOT of drama going on with SD and BM now. Finally all the years of parent alienation have caught up with BM and she is imploding. We were dealing with the latest drama last night. DH and I were talking on the phone with the neighbors of the BM (who have in the past babysat SD when she was young and SD and this couple are very close). They too are concerned with the drama going on at BM house. When the couple said..."to anyone on the outside world...this would look so crazy..." My husband said..."Well I'm sitting next to an outsider right now". This one statement broke my heart. I have respected my boundaries as a stepmom, been supportive of my DH and SD and worked with them to try to make the situation better the SD. He later apologized (only after I brought it up) and he said he was just mad, but it makes me feel like that is what he truly feels. I have been sensitive to this in the past (and he knows that). It's hard for all of us SM who are childless of our own not to feel an outsider sometimes, but to have him actually say that. I'm crushed.....