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Submitted by Red_panda7 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 5:29pm

I'm new to blogs and really I just want to maybe get some advice and support and give some in return hear what works share what has worked for me.
I'm so at my wits end and I realized as I went to bed crying (this probably won't be the last time) what I wanted was someone to talk to not pass judgment and not be family and try to "fix it for me" I know I'll have other days like yesterday and be dieing on the inside to pulverize my Stepkids for picking on my 4 year old bio child but I think I can manage a whole lot better if I don't do it alone my partner trys really hard but sometimes the kids just do what they want the moment he leaves and although it take a lot to upset me it takes nearly as long to completely calm down again because I don't much care how there mom parents them that's there mom but mess with my child teach him bad language and make him cry and you have lost me as the nice Step mom

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Submitted by luchay on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 6:47pm

I think what she meant by that is internally she is dying to pulverise them - not that she is dying inside because she wants to parent them for wrongdoing ...

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 6:59pm

So why babysit the skids when your BF is not home?

If Dad isn't home and he can't get the kids to behave and respect you as the authority in the home, pack the skid up and send them back to BM. That's really your choice. You either watch his kids and demand they behave for you (even if you have to hand out consequences and discipline...just not actually beating on them) or you reuse to babysit anymore.

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Submitted by mom2futuresuperhero on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 7:22pm

Advice? I advise you tell those little shits the next time the inflict any harm or hurt towards your child will be the last time they breathe on this planet. And if your significant other has an issue I would advise him he has exactly 1.5 seconds to step off the shit or you will start ripping faces off with him. That is some lame ass shit that they think they can mistreat a 4 year old.

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Submitted by Red_panda7 on Sat, 03/07/2015 - 11:30pm

I want to send them back I do, but bio mom lives 3 hours away and the kids only come out every other weekend this includes most of Friday and BF is home Fri and Sun
and I am dying to instill little respect in my step dauther if my own son talked the way they do when there dads not there I'd turn him over my knee as it is I would NEVER do that to my youngest stepson as his Autisum makes his social skills closer to the age of my son he needs a safe enviroment to play the Skids also have a 10 month half sister and SD is good with her but youngest SS is bad with her too but I'm trying not to judge to harshly