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The Harpee is off her rocker- update 2

Purplemom's picture

SO FDH and the harpee went to mediation... what a f&^%$^& train wreck that was.

The mediator basically was anti-penis.

The mediator actually said- and reccomended to the judge- that it was more important for the boys to go to baseball than spend quality time with their father (he was getting them 28 hours a week- and more than half of that was spent at baseball)

She also questioned why FDH was so upset... FDH was like
"are you kidding me? How would you feel if your ex dragged you into an emergency hearing to accuse you of abuse as retaliation for you not taking your kids to baseball practice during 5 of the only 28 hours a week you get to see them?!"

When FDH brought up to the mediator the Harpees crap- like grabbing his car door and not letting him leave, and grabbing FDH to stop him from leaving in front of the kids- the mediator SHRUGGED IT OFF and didn't even include it in her report!

Luckily the judge had a brain and did not require supervised visits, and just moved the schedule around. Even though the Harpee has agreed to a 40/60 split, until more mediation takes place the court order now has FH having them from 4-8 wed nights and 9-5 Sundays (because god forbid time with their father interfere with BASEBALL!)

They have another court ordered mediation appintment (with a different mediator- thank god!) at the end of May.

I am so disgusted by this crap I can not even begin to tell you!

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whatwasithinkin's picture

I am always surprised on this site when a parent is not taking their child to their extra curricular events on their time. I know here in NJ the judge will out right tell you, if the child is signed up for a sport (ect) and its on the parents time, that the child is not to be held back from the sport (or other event) that they are commited to.

I somewhat agree, and you may too if you step back from it. Why should the child have to give up their life for time with Daddy (or Mommy, BM are worse for this then Dads)The child deserves the right to have a normal childhood and should be supported no matter "who's" time it is. They didnt ask for feuding divorce parents.

On the flip side of that your BM is a wacko, I hate BM that pull the abuse card when they are out of options...it sucks

DASKRA's picture

Keep us posted.

We are having a problem with this same thing. SD8 lives 45 miles away. not far enough but we can't make the drive there and back everyday for things. BM#3 is trying to fill up her whole summer schedule with crap to deny us visitation. That's where I draw a line. She can get signed up for these activites here with us where it's easier for us to transport her to and from. We do this for the other SD's and it's fine.