"Missing" people you've never known
BM's father died before either child SD7 or SD5 were born yet these kids will go on and on and on about how they 'miss' grandad Pat. BM has also filled their heads full of crap about how grandad pat is sitting up on a star looking over them (think Mustafa in the Lion King).
Now, I know people are different but I can't see ANYTHING healthy about teaching kids to have false emotions. Keep in mind that these kids are completely lacking in empathy or compassion for any living them but themselves. Through BM they learn to 'fake' emotions at the appropriate time and I think teaching them to act like they miss this grandfather who died before they were even born only reinforces that.
Skids are gone with BM now to her family's yearly 'let's all get together and talk about how much we miss grandad pat' retreat so I know when they come back they are going to be going on and on about how much they miss the old guy. Problem is, the weekend they come back we are going to a star party and will be looking at stars through telescopes all weekend. I'm sure the topic of grandad pat sitting on one of them is going to come up and I will not play along with this kind of silliness. I (and SO) will tell them that stars are very hot fiery objects and that nobody, dead or alive, is sitting on any of them.
This is yet another area where we will have to 'undermine' what BM is telling them. There are so many. I don't like it. I wish it didn't happen but I cannot play along with this stupidity without also putting these idiotic ideas in my own child's head and I refuse to do that.