Come to Jesus talk
Had a brutally honest talk with H last night. Pretty much told him that if we loved each other as much as we say we do that we will do whatever it takes to fix this or our marriage isn't going to work and after Sunday it was on a downward spiral. I told him that I need him to make me feel like my feelings are important to him. And if puke(sd15) does something that affects me and I just can't overlook it, he'll handle it to make it better for me. He agreed he would and apologized many times.
This is the last talk we will have about this. I'm done talking about it. If he doesn't follow through, I will handle these situations with puke myself and he can deal with her backlash.