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So again to catch up. My step daughters 10yo accused me of abuse to their mom. They said that I am beating up their father and emotional abusing them. So their mom states. But lets not forget that she is again not working, lost her boyfriend and is now living in what looks like low income housing after she lost her home due to lack of payment. Not that this woman did not have any money she just spent it on expensive purses, shopping and eating out.

The background history is that the girls are adopted, the ex-wife, cheated on my husband with five different men. She had no problem telling the girls that they were adopted without having my husband there. She also has told the girls that they have 6 brothers and sisters that passed away due to miscarriages and all the fetuses have names. My husband and her have been divorced for six years and now that the grass is not greener on the other side everyone has hell to pay for her choices.

So the twin girls have been out of our home for over two months, and yes it has been blissful. Again, just before the accusations were made there were e-mails & text messages stating that she was going to ruin our lives, make the girls hate us and bring us down. So recently she approached my husband about giving her money, because her fiance left her and she again is not working. She said that the girls need the money and she is living solely on the child support.

He denied giving her cash again. So then the e-mails started with these accusations. So the girls again been gone for some time. I suggested for them to see our counselor. My husband agreed. So he made some appointments. The first appointment was a meet and greet session. The second appointment resulted in the counselor stating that we should fold the girls back into the mix. With a suggestion that everyone should be kinder, she said the girls mother has created a co-dependent situation etc. My husband wants them over and his ex is now back with her fiancee so she is not interested in keeping them on weekends. This is one of 12 guys she has been with and introduced to these girls.

However, here is my problem. I have three children, one with my husband and two with my ex-husband who is basically non-existent. All my children call my husband Daddy and love him very much. Now his girls are physically aggressive they have punched my youngest & my husband and lie extensively.

My husband refuses to tell the counselor the updates on the situation. He will not confront the girls about it. The only thing he will do is send an e-mail to his ex stating that the accusations are without merit. I personally do not want the girls back in our home because as I have stated before their Mom is crazy and they are following in her footsteps. She literally has had two or three stents in a psych. ward due to what she calls "anxiety". LOL Now all of his friends and family tell me now.. yes now...they are telling me.. she is crazy and unpredictable. That I need to watch out for her. They continually remind be about her domestic violence charges that she has had. They remind me about how she ripped a towel bar off the wall and beat my husband with it when they were married. I am scared... what should I do. My husband just says I am being sensitive. But I just want to protect myself and my children.

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mom in need's picture

I am trying to do so. The sad thing is I feel like this is driving a wedge between my husband and myself. Every time I mention something about whatever the situation is he says"Why would some do something like that?" Ugh.. I feel so lost.

Rags's picture

WEB CAMS and CELL PHONE VIDEO!

Film does not lie. Get footage of the little shits hitting their dad and your kids. Once you have documented evidence ... CORPORAL PUNISHMENT!!!!

When the SDs get physical ... light up some bare kid ass with a belt then park them in separate rooms by themselves to write thousands of sentences.

"I will do what I am told when I am told and I will not hit my parents or my siblings."

Make the sentence fit the crime. This keeps them totally connected with the consequences of their actions.

One messy sentence ... the count starts over.

They write 120-150 sentences per hour. If they miss an hourly quota even one time ... the count starts over.

More importantly .... get custody. BM is a whackjob with no business having anyone's children including her own. Your family is the only hope for these little girls.

Don't procrastinate ... ACT!

All IMHO of course.

Good luck.