Should we spend more for Christmas on SD just because she's underage?
I know I haven't said much in awhile because we've been doing fairly well, but this latest thing really has me irritated.
The past two or three months I have not been getting as much work as before so our household income has gone down considerably. My DD21 and I have been planning a modest Christmas and working real hard at coming up with inexpensive, yet nice and meaningful presents for everybody. My DH has wanted to get my SD13 an iPhone (she had one once before and was not safe with it so we took it away from her and then the phone got destroyed through no fault of her own). Replacing her iPhone is going to be more expensive than what I wanted to spend on any one person for Christmas.
So I suggested a couple of nice gifts for her to my DH... stuff that I am pretty sure she would enjoy, just not as much as the iPhone. He wants to go ahead and get the phone for her. I told him we couldn't afford to spend that much on the kids. He replied that since my kids are all over the age of 18 that we should just get them the inexpensive gifts I had planned but get his daughter the iPhone.
I disagree. Just because my kids are over the age of legal adulthood doesn't mean I don't still want to give them nice stuff. DH wasn't around when my kids were underage, so it's not like he EVER helped provide them with nice gifts or phones or anything else in any shape or form, but they did get nice presents at that age because that's what I could afford. Now we cannot afford presents as nice and I don't believe one person in the family should be singled out to receive an expensive gift while the rest sacrifices.
So I am interested in your opinions...