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We got an offer- and it isn't bad!

fairyo's picture

Someone offered on the house- and it is a good offer. Obviously, I have mixed feelings about this as it was my beloved home and refuge from all things stressful- however, I know that I can re-create this elsewhere. It means I have to work more, do a lot more driving etc but I feel I 've had years taken off me and although I'm tired, I sleep well and am being well-looked after by my amazing family.

I went back to the house yesterday, before I knew someone had offered on it, and he's ruined already for me- it is no longer my home. He has spent stupid money on restoring the gates (which would have been ok left) and putting in the cheapest and ugliest of carpets in the dining-room- why?? And the kitchen floor was covered in goo and smelled of oil and grease because the fan doesn't work- why couldn't he have fixed that? Also the hand-wash basins were filthy.

Also so much stuff has disappeared. Where has it gone? He said it was safe but I'd like to know where it all is.

Now I have a place to go to and another house to buy-modest, yes, but I will make it home, and that is where the heart is after all.

I am making a future for myself in only a few short but very very busy weeks.

Let's hope this sale goes through and we can both move on...

 

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Aniki-Moderator's picture

Yay, fairyo!! I hope it works out!

" it was my...refuge from all things stressful". Hon.... not ALL things. The Ostrich was definitely a stressmaker for you.

As for where things are... tell Ostrich you will be picking up those things on such-and-such date and to have them available. Sorry, I don't trust him. Get a storage locker ASAP and start pulling your things from the house. {{{hugs}}}

fairyo's picture

Thanks everyone- things really are on the up now. We sold the house for a great price to a genuine buyer-so let's hope it all goes through asap and I can look for my forever home again!

Yes, Aniki, only my refuge because he wasn't there very often- maybe it was the prospect of retiring and being at home with me all day that drove him to the edge- who knows?

And yes, the stuff is safe, but I think he's hidden it on purpose so I'll get mad at him, another bullet I won't bite...

I never thought I would be searching for houses again but can't wait to find my new home- trying not to get too excited!

fairyo's picture

That's great to hear! I can't wait 'till I open that bottle on my first night of freedom- much as I love my family they are starting to drive me nuts!

Maxwell09's picture

It seems like he is making unneccessary changes to the house to make it less appealing to any buyers. Why would you put carpet in the dining room or leave the basins unclean?! Odd choices for sure. I'm glad you're out and not being held back. Get out and stay out. 

fairyo's picture

I don't know what goes on in his head- but I know his eyesight isn't good so I don't think he sees the dirt that other people would. The house is sold now, but I will go and give it a good 'Fairyo' clean just because I feel that is the right thing to do for me. Like making sure a corpse is washed before burial maybe. I loved that house- I will never live in such a lovely place again- but I have googled the guy who bought it and I believe he will care for it and be happy there. I hope so.

We have had no communication regarding anything except finances- I'm sure this is what he did with his previous three wives and he is an expert at breaking up a relationship, rather than staying in one. 

Meanwhile I have a life to live and I am sure as hell not looking over my shoulder too much!