Just my opinion, and I obviously don't know all the details, but... She's 14.. she probably needs to suck it up a little. I tell mine the same thing all the time. No whining.. whining gets you nowhere in life.
I'll agree that accidents and broken bones happen, but seriously. Whining about every little problem and going to the doctor every time you turn around only makes you look like a hypochondriac.

My guess is it's probably similar to why so many SM's get so irritated with their stepkids. She's not his kid. He assumes she's overreacting & it can't possibly be as bad as she's making it out to be & it irriates him to hear her complain & it irritates him to know that money is being spent on something he thinks is not really a big deal.

I think it's just because she's not his kid.

Oh, idk I get annoyed with my dd13 when she is dramatic. I think its an age in which they really practice those skills! She sprained her ankle in track a few weeks ago. She went on and on about how I needed to take her and get it xrayed, blah, blah,-even tried to make me feel bad by posting about it on facebook "I hurt soooo bad and my mom wont do anything about it". Well you bet your booty that was promptly deleted and her facebook shut down for the next couple of days. I never took her to the dr. There was no swelling, no redness, and amazingly, whenever convenient, she could run through the house. I'm not going to say that it didnt hurt her at some point, it probably did, but she was playing it for all it was worth. It healed very nicely all on its own.

If your dd has a history of this behavior its probably why he assumed nothing is wrong.

My ss13 is also good at dramatics. He fell off his bike once, bm had an old wrist brace lying around and he decided on his own he needed to wear it. Went to school and got out of band and gym for a week by pretending that a dr. told him he needed to wear it. He wore it up to our house and we just kind of snickered at him. He had ripped it off and thrown it on the ground outside 15 minutes after arriving because it was inconveninet to wear. Didnt retrieve it til the next afternoon. Insisted on wearing the next day to local amusement park-again took it off while riding a ride and set it down and then forgot about it until he left the park, but then threw a fit about how much he needed it. Sometimes I wonder how stupid these kids think we are.

You don't need to defend the fact that you wanted a doctor's opinion of your daughter's injury. A 14 year old still fells pain and shouldn't have to suck up a broken bone because she has a stepparent.

My x used to do this all the time. It got to the point that my kids were afraid to tell me anything because they were afraid of retaliation from my xh when I wasn't there. One of my daughters nearly cut her finger off and didn't want to say anything to me. And yet, when his daughter threw a temper tantrum at the age of 12, he tells me that we need to give in otherwise she'll get herself so worked up she'll throw up. WHAT!!!!!

Someone has to still be the parent even if they are teenagers.

I get that sometimes girls are dramatic and make moutains out of molehills, but as a mother, you should be able to tell. Who better knows her than her mother? Add to that, you would be considered a negligent parent if your child kept telling you she was in pain and you did nothing about it, and as is what happened, she truly had something to be crying about.

This is exactly one of the reasons that when I remarried, my current husband has no imput into these things. I worked and carried the insurance on them and if I wanted to take them to the doctor every single day, it really wasn't any of his business. I could tell if they were milking it for attention.

Same for him. If he felt his daughters needed a doctor, I would never question that. He works and carries insurance on his kids.

I can honestly say that neither my husband nor myself feel about each others kids the same as we do about our own. We are open with each other about this as well. So, when it comes to these types of things, we defer to the bio-parent to make these decisions.

My son did the same injury to his hand and was in a cast for 10 weeks. It involves a tiny little bone in between your thumb and forefinger. If it doesn't heal properly you can lost the grip in your thumb in the future. Hence 10 weeks in plaster.

That being said, one thing your daughter should realise is that sometimes things hurt and sometimes things HURT. If she creates the same fuss about everything then when something REALLY serious happens no one will believe the extent of her injury/illness. Exhibit A) Her arm.

Your DH is probably fed up with the drama and constant bandaging and heat pads and ice packs etc. I know when my sson goes on about his allergies (which are minor MINOR compared to mine which have my face resembling Quasimodo)I roll my eyes and remind DH that it really isn't so bad and all he needs to do is take some meds and go to bed and sleep it off. No, he would stay in the family room hogging the TV because he is 'sick' and leave piles of tissues everywhere and snort and honk his way into my bad books. But he has 'allergies'. WHATEVER!

I would tell ehr if she can't work at not making a fuss then soccer is off the books for a season. This is about self control and taking care of yourself. At 14 my kids were applying icepacks to sprains and strains and breaks. My prev. mentioned son didn't tell me about his writs/hand for 4 days because he thought with ice and rest it would go away. And he was 14 and playing rep soccer at the time.