Havent given up but BM drivin me nuts!!!!
So, I'm new to this, but have been reading other blogs and comments.. And can relate to so many of you! Hmm..how to make my long story short.. My BF and I started seeing eachother when he moved out of his BM house.. He got a place of his own. He has 3 kids. His BM was on her 3rd bf when he finally left.. About 4 months into our relationship, after BM filing divorce, she saw my number on their phone bill.. Crazy started in.. Way to long of a story there 
BUT, we got thru that.. Bf and I live together at my house, his children absolutly adore and love me! Luckily BM doesn't bad mouth me to them!! They loving comin to out home.. So, its been a year or so now, and the divorce STILL isn't final!! AHHHH!! The crazy ass BM keeps finding ways to post-pon it! It was supposed to be final months ago! BF and I are at our final straw with this "woman" and she still has her BF, but will NOT move on and leave us alone.. Its one game after another and all she wants is his money! The divorce was filed last year and her lazy butt still won't get a job!!! The BF and I are compltely happy! We just want this to be done! Any thoughts?
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Crystal, thank you!! It would
Crystal, thank you!! It would take days to put our drama on here lol.. BM doesn't even want her BF, she is just thinking she makes my bf jealous! EW.. She is so fricken lazy it pisses me off to the max!!! A year, and still NO job for her in site! She just sits at home on FB all day pretending to have a life! She didn't want my bf back till she realized he moved on and is happy with me!
I know exactly how you feel.
I know exactly how you feel. It took me thousands upon thousands to get rid of mine and she filed ! All she wanted to do is continue to file more bs to get me to pay. Finally I had to let her take most of what she wanted , because she would have bankrupted us both and our kids would not have a home anymore. It took over a year and most of the monies that could have been put towards the kids. That is a narisist. I don't know what to tell you , but, the sooner the better. Me and my new girlfriend are very happy together and she is just a nasty , bitter person. Good luck !
Pat, so glad to hear a mans
Pat, so glad to hear a mans point of view in this!! My BF is so stressed from her crazy antics!! There are 3 kids envolved, which I took into my home, they have their own rooms we decorated/painted and all that! They love coming to our house! But this crazy BM finds any and every way to keep the divorce going! Its been 8 months, and its still not done! I'm gonna scream! I despise her! She is so two faced and lazy!! She says that my BF SHOULD support her and pay her bills!! R u serious??!!
It took 2 and half years for
It took 2 and half years for my SO's divorce to be finalized. BM wanted more child support, and less time for SO. She claimed that SO just wanted SS so he didn't have to pay as much child support. They went to mediation and she tells the mediator this and SO's says that is not true, I want more time with my son, because I love him and i want to spend as much time with him as I can. SO even told the mediator that he would pay more child support than was required, he just wanted to spend time with his son. The mediator made BM thank SO. It was great, she was pissed. lol SO also got more time with SS. We are currently going for a motion to modify to clarify things and tie up all of the lose ends in the decree because BM constantly abuses them. So make sure you get everything in writing that you can and leave as few loopholes as possibly. Because if they are there, and your BM is like ours, she will find them.
My SO and I have been together for a little over 4 years now, and we are very happy. It makes BM crazy. She hates it and try's to break us up and make us miserable with all of her games. BM has been through countless boyfriends and just had a baby with her ex boyfriend of 1 month.
BM has entitlement issues. She needs to feel like she has the upper hand with everything. She's crazy.
Hang in there, its a rough road, but eventually you will get through it. Whatever you do, don't let things she does, cause you and your SO to fight, because that's exactly what she wants.
Hayuh!! Thank you! I love
Hayuh!! Thank you! I love this site already! I sooo need ppl that know what I'm going thru! All the crazy BM says is I was a home wrecker and split up their family.. NO, BM you were fooling around with 4 ppl and got caught and he left you! And is HAPPY with ME! You are sooo right about the fact that us being happy pisses off the BM! I never knew they were all this crazy!!! I feel like the divorce will never be final! My BF and I are so happy and want to continue moving forward, but I feel like she is holding us back, and she has a bf!!!! Wtf? When will she ever move on???
3 years is what it took for
3 years is what it took for my BFs divorce to be final. I think throughout the whole thing BM was hoping he would come back to her, so she kept dragging it out. Don't worry, the judge is eventually going to get sick of the games, set a trial date and hopefully your BM will come to her senses and just sign the damn papers
Caya its been post-poned so
Caya its been post-poned so many times it makes me sick!! They have a trial date set for the end of this month, and the BM decided she wanted to file bankruptcy! And the lazy biOtch takes forver to do anything (mind u she doesn't work!) So now she says that if she files bankruptcy after the divorce is final, they will take her money she is getting (my bf entire 401 k!!!) So.. I told my BF, if she files bankruptcy before its final she will screw ur credit as well, his response, "my credit is already bad" UGH I love him n we r happy, but he just doesn't care how she screws him over, he will bitch and get pissed, but doesn't do anything! SORRY got side tracked lol, but anyhow it was set to be finally FINAL the end of this month and I don't see that happening!!! Grrr
It does get frustrating. 2
It does get frustrating. 2 years into the divorce BM got pregnant again. Obviously it wasn't my BFs, and BM even acknowledged this, but decided she wanted to wait until after she had her baby to finalize the divorce, WTF!! It's not his kid, he has nothing to do with it so why wait?! The insanity of some BMs will never cease to amaze me.
Caya are you friggen kidding
Caya are you friggen kidding me?!?! Omg, that's ridiculous! Its just crazy how low they sink to try to get back the man they cheated on for years!! Seriously.. Ugh my bf ex irritates me beyond belief! And my friends try to support my feeling and anger at times, but they have never been thru it! My bf and I have gotten thru so much this last year! And the BM is sooo immature, she just uses the kids against him and it makes me sick! Everytime we get the kids or she drops them off she is dresses like a complete scank!! Get the clue lady, he doesn't want you anymore and you look pathetic!!!
Oh my gosh! Do we have the
Oh my gosh! Do we have the same BM?? Hahaha same thing here - BM doesn't want him, she just doesn't want anyone else to have him. She's going to have her latest bf's baby anyday now and she has made no moves on her own to finalize this divorce, its ridiculous..
She's an entitled narcissistic histrionic nut who only cares about the "paycheck" that comes when she has another baby. I actually feel really sad for her kids..
Hang in there, it'll happen.. Just be sure that your bf has strong clear boundaries with her. She'll push it as far as she can for as long as she can. It sounds like she'll hold onto any form of control she can get in this situation.