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DH is off in the Twilight Zone again...

DaizyDuke's picture

DH and I were talking the other day, and the subject of SS19 comes up.  He said that apparently MIL ran into BM2 and BM2 told her that if DH needed to get ahold of SS that he would have to call her because SS doesn't have a phone.  She also told MIL that her husband is trying to get SS a dishwasher job at the hotel that husband works at.  I LMAO and said:

1.  Isn't it funny, that since SS was 8 years old and DH was footing the cell phone bill, SS HADDDDDDD to have a cell phone for "safety" purposes (according to BM2) but now that DH is done paying CS and BM2 and/or SS19 are responsible for that.. he doesn't have one. *ok*  DH said he doesn't even have BM cell phone # anymore, that he deleted it and is NOT calling her. 

2.  The last time Aunt J was home (which was May of 2017) BM2 told her the same exact thing... that her husband was trying to get SS a job as a dishwasher at hotel that husband works at.  Is it really that difficult to get a dishwasher job in this day and age???  I guess maybe if you're a high school drop out??  I would think they would give just about anyone that job? 

So here's where DH goes Twilight Zone and says. "I wish you and SS19 could get along because if he lived with us, I could have him working at the farm up the road (we are good friends with people who have a big dairy farm up the road), Farmers would give him a job and he could work his ass off and make some money!" I LMAO again and said "Really???  We're talking about the same kid that took 5 hours to weed whack a section at our house that genrerally takes me 20 minutes?  The same kid who took 2 hours and lots of whining to mow around the raised beds in the garden, that generally takes me 20 minutes max???  The same kid that doesn't roll out of bed until 2 p.m. because he's been playing video games all night?  The same kid who smoked dope in our house because he just couldn't stay away from it for 24 hours??? 

OK DH, it's all MY fault that SS isn't living with us and working his proverbial ass off.  Ok

 

 

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hereiam's picture

Haha! Sure, SS would be an entirely different person if he could only live with you! My DH has made the comment, "SD26's life would be different if she had lived with us." Yes, in a lot of ways, her life would be different, but lazy is lazy and stupid is stupid. That's just who she is.

 

DaizyDuke's picture

SD20 DID live with us and look how well THAT turned out!  Of course depending on the day, that's either BM1 clan fault for raising her the way they did, or my fault for not getting along with her either.  sorry, but I don't appreciate people stealing from me, lying to me, and disrespecting me. 

bearcub25's picture

My SS18 is done with high school, has no plans for college and has no job.  Bugs DSO every week for money.    I made the comment that those 2, SS and SD17, need to get jobs.  

'SS is waiting on a job at the Gabriels Bros warehouse'.   Yeah,  he figures if he keeps saying he is waiting on a job, DSO will give him money.   Its only 10 bucks or even 20 but he does nothing to ever help DSO with cutting firewood or repairs on the house.  I don't respond or react bc I don't care. 

SS has worked at 2 McDonalds.  In the 3 months total he supposedly worked, he made abour 300 bucks each time.  He would be dropped off at work but then never actually go into to work and hang around outside until he was picked up.  My DIL worked at the 2nd McD's job and she told me SS would show up at McD's early in the morning and tell her this wild reason he couldn't come to work 8 hours later in the day.  

DaizyDuke's picture

I'd rather go to work and earn some money, than stand around outside the place pretending to be at work for 8 hours!!!  Who does that???  lol

queensway's picture

Geez your poor SS. LOL Some Dads just don't get it. Twilight zone is a perfect term for it.

On the other hand I don't get why a 19 year old wouldn't want a job and have a cell phone. LAZY

DaizyDuke's picture

Right?  DH was like "Oh but of course BM2 can't pay for his cell phone"  I said "We all know how much I loathe BM2, but in her defense, why should she have to pay for a derelict 19 year old high school drop out, who is still living with her and perfectly capable of getting a job and won't.  Let's also not forget that he had $6,000.00 handed to him about June of last year from SSDI (DH is disabled) due to some calculation/rate error that went back 10 years.  Guess if he can't afford a cell phone, that money has been blown.  But he DOES have a really cool tattoo on his arm and I bet he was able to buy lots of dope to smoke to kill whatever remaining brain cells he might have had left. {eye roll}

beebeel's picture

I would have asked him point blank if you "getting along" with his son would somehow change who his son has shown himself to be. I can "get along" with just about anyone, but it doesn't change a pot smoking thug wannabe into a hard working farm hand.

DaizyDuke's picture

I wondered the same thing.. how does my not "getting along" (read won't allow a dope smoking, shoplifting, thug wanna be in my home) have anything do with SS charachter???  If he and I became best friends, would he suddenly quit smoking dope, stop playing video games, stop wearing his pants stupid and start working 60 hours a week?? 

Of course I didn't say any of this, because it always leads to a fight and I can't be bothered with that. 

Sweet T's picture

Keep doing whatever it is that you are doing to keep that fine young man out of your house. Does your husband really want him around your bs. 

 

It does not require a high school diploma to wash dishes. 

 

It has to be easier to be in denial that to acknowledge your kids are looses. As a parent that would be pretty heart breaking.

strugglingSM's picture

Rule #1 - no matter what the issue, it’s *always* the stepmother’s fault.