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Dads_Wife's picture

I would like to start this post by saying my SO does a lot. He does all of the laundry, he cleans on off weeks of the cleaning lady, he does his fair share of dishes, ect, so this post is mainly just one of those posts that is me just complaining but I'm sure many could commiserate with the dumb things their SO's say without thinking.

For preface - we both work a lot. I work probably 50 hours a week, he does 55 and I am in graduate school part time trying to complete my MBA, so it can get a little hectic. This past weekend, his mother and daughter flew up to visit, which means I got them to and from the airport, about 2 hours each way, since SO really struggles driving in the city. I gave 110% this weekend, making sure everyone had a good time. And they did. It was good! Needless to say though, I started this work week at 330am (go to the airport), grad school on Tuesday until 10pm and then the chicken incident happened.

Wednesday night I come home from work, cook dinner, make plates, and clean everything up. SO gets out of the shower and the first thing he says when he sees his plate is, "Is that chicken rubbery?" There was no real negative tone behind it, just a question, but a question that just infuriated me. No, "thank you for making dinner" just "is that chicken rubbery?" ......... Speechless. I wanted to throw the plate in the trash. Even now, he still doesn't see anything wrong with what he said, which, there really isn't anything technically wrong with it, but some gratitude would have been nice instead. I struggle with explaining myself on occasion and this is literally the dumbest fight we've ever had but I can't let it go.

Thank god its Friday (and thank god for wine).

Have a great day!

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hereiam's picture

Well, that mad me laugh, but I would not like that question, either. Why would he even ask that? Why would he assume that it might be rubbery? Chicken can look all kinds of things. How about he just tries it, first?

My DH does most of the cooking and it would hurt his feelings if I just looked at his food and asked, "Does that taste gross?" And what kind of a bitch would I be if I did that?

Dads_Wife's picture

I know! And trust me, I totally understand how petty it is to get my panties in a wod about something so silly. It is a larger underlying issue of his propensity to not demonstrate appreciation for anything, which we have been slowly working on. VERY SLOWLY. I don't understand why thank you is such a hard word from some men.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Thank You is NOT hard for all men. My DH is very appreciative of all I do and thanks me regularly. Yours was being a bit of an asshat. 

Like hereiam said, how about he tries it first? Then, if it IS rubbery, he can make himself a PBJ.

Dads_Wife's picture

I totally agree with the asshat thing. I explained to him that the women in the office understood why I was upset right as I said the story. His response - "you really know how to make me look like an asshole" - My response - "no you do a good job of that all on your own"

It really is ridiculous sometimes.

Winterglow's picture

Next time he cooks for you, eye your plate warily and ask "are you sure this meat is fresh?"

susanm's picture

I tend to have a quick wit and a smart mouth.  It is a double-edged sword in that they have saved my bacon and gotten my a$$ in a sling in equal proportions over the course of my life.  But I am who I am and it is a bit late to change it now.

The first thing in my head, and guaranteed to come out of my mouth, was "I don't know, jackass.  Try bouncing it off the floor a couple of times and find out."  

hereiam's picture

I would probably throw it on the floor for him. "Nope, not rubbery, doesn't bounce," and walk away.

notarelative's picture

DH: Is that chicken rubbery?

ME: Yes, it is. I made it just the way you like -- rubbery. I sacrificed and ate the non rubbery piece myself.