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can't believe the level Stain and his mom sunk to

buttercookie's picture

Stain and his mom have been harassing my husbands father who is on a fixed income for money for a car. Stains mom has 160,000 dollars in the bank and she wants to rob an old mans social security income because she doesn't want to help her son but she expects everyone else to. We already bought stain a car, he didn't take care of it and he won't work full time so he can't afford to buy a car. He doesn't think his money should be for necessities, he thinks his money should be fun money. I just got off the phone with FIL who felt bad he told them NO, I told him he did the best thing he could. FIL is discusted with both of them. They are also making a lot of people mad, I've blocked both of them from Facebook but a lot of mutual friends are calling her a nut and asking how we are dealing with it. I'm just saying we blocked them both and would rather not hear about it at all. I really don't want to hear about it and as soon as I say that the people who are telling me (out of drama or concern, I don't care) shut up. Geesh is it to much to ask an adult to become responsible and pay their own way? Stains mom doesn't want to buy him a car and I don't blame her but she should expect Stain to buy himself one, not jump on the band wagon begging everyone she knows for money when they all know she has more money than most in a bank account. No morals. Thanks again for letting me vent. I don't understand this behavior its not rational to me

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sixteensmom's picture

And once he gets a car there's insurance and gas and maintenance.... Goodness. The skid needs a job pronto! And how dare bm contact fill. What a poor excuse for a mother.

buttercookie's picture

He has a part time job, he won't get a full time one. I don't care what he does as long as it doesn't involve us supporting an able bodied lazy adult. I'm disgusted that they (his bm and him) would stoop to the level of harassing a senior citizen and expecting him to buy Stain a car while living on a fixed income. Who'd feel right taking food money from an elderly person who is on a fixed income just because of a sense of entitlement that needs to be smacked out of Stain. Oh and after all of this Stain won't be getting any help anytime too soon on anything.

NCMilGal's picture

I'm going to go one further than sixteensmom and say, 'what a poor excuse for a human being.'

I was just venting about this on Facebook. (secret step group, not in general) BM asked my sweet MIL for $300 for a dress for SD15's end-of-year school dance. Oh yeah, and to attend BM's sister's wedding. Betcha SD15 wouldn't be getting a new dress if it were just for the dance... MIL is 78, has 7 children, 17 grandchildren, and 12 great-grandchildren. She can't afford to hand out money to everybody like that, but BM sees nothing wrong in asking. She has quit asking DH for money because she KNOWS what he thinks of her financial irresponsibility, and hearing him say no "is embarrassing."

BM has no pride and no shame. She disgusts me.

Most Evil's picture

That is just sick, to try and abuse someone who is elderly like that - I wonder if there is some way to press charges for that somehow????? If not there should be!!!!!! Thank God he was able to say NO-!!! HELL NO!!!! Wink

Auteur's picture

Can you call the elder abuse hotline? I would!!

http://www.ncea.aoa.gov

He doesn't think his money should be for necessities, he thinks his money should be fun money.

Sounds like the PERFECT life-long welfare recipient!!

I'm in the same boat until my exit plan is finalized. GG's oldest, Brainiac SS14 thinks he's going to be a ROCK STAR so he's failing all his grades except for band and that is fine by the Behemoth (BM who WORKS as a CPS caseworker, btw)

buttercookie's picture

It's really not elder abuse, they are telephone harassing him, I contacted his financial advisor and informed her of the situation, She is my FIL's cousin and a bank manager. She will make sure FIL is not taken advantage of financially. FIL lives 6 hours away from Stain and Stain has no wheels to do him harm. FIL's cousin also advised BM and Stain to cease this type of contact with FIL as it is stressing him and charges for harassment will be filed along with a lawsuit.