Step Dad Cop Out
My husband is the SF to my two boys, I am the SM to his two girls. His daughters' respect and obey fine because I've been around them since 4 & 6 yrs old. My boys are 16 & 14 and they met SF around 11 & 13, they have been very disobedient and disrespectful to both of us. I want him to step up to the plate and discipline them and turn them around. He says its my job since they are my sons. This bothers me and it sort of causes me to disrespect him a little. I think its a cop out. Their father is in and out of their lives. Any suggestions?
Boss Baby
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boss baby
Why do you expect SF to do something that you are not capable of doing yourself?
boy=man
A woman cannot teach a boy to be a man, the same as a man cannot teach a little girl to be a woman. Somethings can only be taught by a man and some by a woman. I have done all I can do on my own, he needs to teach them to become men.
Boss Baby
boy=man
A woman cannot teach a boy to be a man, the same as a man cannot teach a little girl to be a woman. Somethings can only be taught by a man and some by a woman. I have done all I can do on my own, he needs to teach them to become men.
Boss Baby
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Boss Baby
boy=man
A woman cannot teach a boy to be a man, the same as a man cannot teach a little girl to be a woman. Somethings can only be taught by a man and some by a woman. I have done all I can do on my own, he needs to teach them to become men.
Boss Baby
boy=man
A woman cannot teach a boy to be a man, the same as a man cannot teach a little girl to be a woman. Somethings can only be taught by a man and some by a woman. I have done all I can do on my own, he needs to teach them to become men.
Boss Baby
Respect does not
Respect does not discriminate by gender. YOU are their mother. THEY are old enough to have known better. THEY are disrespecting both you and your husband. YOU as the parent are supposed to raise your children to respect their elders, figures of authority and whatnot. I'm sorry, but it sounds like YOU are the one that is trying to cop out of raising your children properly.
I'm trying to think of one thing that ALL men can do better than ALL women, but cannot. Plenty of single women have raised their sons to be fine upstanding citizens without having a male father figure in their lives, just as single men have raised their daughters to be wonderful women without the aide of a woman by their side. You teach them morals, respect, ethics, responsiblity, life skills, etc. Being a woman does not disqualify you from teaching your sons any of these.
One of the things I've
One of the things I've admired of my DH is how he handled my son disrepecting ME! Even when I tried to stand up for myself and tell my son he cannot speak to me or behave so disrespectfully, my DH backed me up and also told him "you will not talk to your mother like that!". It showed his own respect for me and he did so with authority but not overstepping of the 'stepparent disciplinarian role'. I agree with storiesbysteve... a stepparent should tread very carefully when disciplining skids but a SP needs to show unity and support towards the bioparent. The first step is the bioparent must step up and own that role.
A stepparent can even show their support by stating "you will not speak to my spouse that way!" This shows the child how parents should respect, protect and support each other and also teach the children that spouses are more important than they are (something parents forget sometimes - the way it should be)