I could really just burst! The complete turn around my BF has had since we talked is amazing. I took a step back from SD. Not a huge one but enough to show BF that I wasn’t mommy and she neede him to be her daddy. It’s been amazing. Literally so good. I saw him just go in and play with her for like 2 hours and they took a nap together this weekend. It was beautiful. I don’t think BF was raised in a hands on, show your love household so it’s hard for him to be that way with his daughter but I can see my family and my raising having small impacts each day!
EOW visits with SD13 have been going really well. There is no Disney Dad happening. No nightly phone calls to BM. SD13 seems pretty happy when she is here. She spends time with us by her own choice and we all get along well. When it is time to go back to BM’s (who she chose to stay with FT) she drags her feet.
I am still sticking to my two rules. I am not left alone with SD13 because of her lying. And I keep conversation focused on her, so my invisible emotional boundary is intact.