Seeking advice.....My boyfriends 9 year old princess is so jealous and disrespectful towards me.  I have been in her life for 3 years and I'm not going anywhere, but she seems to think that the more she pushes and plays me against her dad I will walk away.  Some days I get so exhausted trying to ignore her antics I feel I just can't any more.  When all is finally calm for the night most times I retreat to the bedroom and just cry in frustration.  

Well - I am SO glad I came across this site. I have felt AWFUL the past year or so dealing with the feelings I have towards my SS10.  My DH and I have been together about 5 years, married almost 3.  I have a BD16 and it took her awhile to adjust to the situation.  At first I spoiled my SS.  We had a really great relationship.  My DH would have him when he wasn't working.  Then after awhile he changed jobs which allowed him to have SS more. I was always for it.  I even helped/pushed him to get 50/50.  The BM is a piece of work.