My DHs youngest son failed to launch. While we dated and were engaged I just took note, I really wasn't aware of exactly how much DH was supporting ( subsidizing) him. After we married my DH was all about the household budget. It was a bit of a juggling act with my still minor son living with us and me receiving child support, I would contribute that towards the mutual house upkeep and groceries (teenage boys eat a LOT) it didn't really cover everything pertaining to my sons upkeep.
I have 5 children of mine and 4 step children. All 5 of mine are now adults although typically one of them at a time may move back in to our house to get "back on their feet" from time to time. My current and 2nd wife of 4 years has 4 children. Two of those are teenagers and living with us. My wife always has an excuse not to get a job. She hasn't worked in several years (before we married). She is always citing it is because she needs to be there for her teens.
The bitch asked for more money again. She made a financial decision without us and expects us to just “pay our half”. Same shit, different day.
... except I won't "let" him, even though he's willing to go into $100k debt for anything I want!
Yes folks, that is the arguement. I am ashamed I haven't already separated accounts because DH is obsessed with this sports car and watching numerous YouTube vids about it. It starts at like $55k and DH wants to trade in our almost paid off vehicle and finance the rest. Because, "we can afford it" BUT, if I want to separate accounts, then he CAN'T afford it.