My husband and I and our kids' mom have a pretty friendly co-parenting relationship at this point. It used to be very hostile between them and we used to not share any sort of information at all. Now with the relationship being a lot nicer, their mom is more open about sharing what is going on in her life and problems while I do not like sharing any sort of personal problems. I don't mind talking about some aspects of my life (works, school, kids).
I'm really glad I found this website. I'm the only step mother in my group of friends (and the only one with family and kids in the group) so when I have problems or issues or just need to rant, they try their best to understand but it is difficult for them. sorry for the long entry, it is my first time blogging XD
How many of you co-parent?
By that i mean,
Share your opinion on their behaviour? Get involved if they misbehave? Chat and trying to keep a good relationship. Getting involved willingly with picking/dropping off alterations? Buying them gifts or anything they're lacking.
If anything ive learnt from this site is to DISengage, get little involvement. But it's hard not to sometimes.
My learnt mistakes:
I hope that I can obtain some useful tips because I do not know what else to do. My future marriage depends on a solution. My fiance and I have been together over 5 years. We are both divorced, he has five children from his previous marriage and I have one. He is 40 years old and I am 30. His children are 18m, 16f, 14f, 9f twins and my son is 6. I have an extensive background in child development, it is actually my profession. He is in IT. His ex-wife after 15 years of marraige decided she was gay and has remarried.
There are so many lessons learned as we proceed through the mine field of divorce and child custody and co-parenting once the process is final that it might be a good thing to share our experiences with others so that they may learn from our experiences and avoid some of the mistakes we made along the way.
Those who are new to the process are often overwhelmed and don't really know where to begin. We know that divorce is the next best step, but how do we file? What do we ask for? What can we expect?