I'm stuck in a situation that is becoming harder and harder to take. The BM of my SS9 and SD11 is like a horrifying rollercoaster. Either she is actively aggressing both me and DH, she is completely ignoring us and avoiding contact, or she is in a period of fake niceness, which comes out of nowhere and to me feels the strangest and most abusive/gaslighting....

My husband has a BM and I've never had any real issues with her. However I feel like women know when other women feel like they can take your man whenever they wanted to. That's the vibe  get from her.