went to the sporting event and SS15's gf came home with us. DH allowed her to spend the night - they were to sleep in separate bedrooms. I asked DH if he talked with SS15 to clarify the rules of letting ss15's gf spend the night. i got yelled at for how it's not my business how he parents his son and that i need to just relax about it. Fine. I went to bed. SS15 and his gf were in the same bed watching a movie at 11pm. ss15 was to go to bed in his brothers room who wasn't with us this weekend. The sheets to the bed were in the dryer as everything was washed.

I posted this under a response to another person's blog but I felt I needed to post it under my own as well:

I ended things with FH on Friday.
I am so so so sad and heartbroken. I miss his smile, miss being happy with him, miss his hands, miss so much.
He told me on Thursday that he didn't want to deal with problems or have any conflict in his life- and changing his household, reconfiguring his relationship with his son so that I was his partner, and establishing different boundaries with his ex-wife, all of these things created conflict. And that, b/c of this, he viewed me as the problem, b/c he wants no conflict in his life.

BF and I have been together for a year & half. Although we have known each other for 20 yrs when we used to work together in our teenage years. When we bumped into each other this past time (1 1/2yrs ago)sparks flew as they always have & we knew that we weren't going to pass up the opportunity this time to not be together. So, we started to chat & talk on the phone quite a bit because he was doing army training stuff before deployment and we weren't able to get face time so much.

Does anyone have NetFlix through their Wii? If so how do you like it?

The kids leave tomorrow. DH took the day off work to drop them off at the hotel where BM and her BF will be staying for the next two days. I guess they want to see this place for a vacation or something.

I'm tired, I don't know if I should do this anymore. I've been saying this since the fall. BF and I hash and rehash the same things out and yet I am still confused, I guess because he doesn't really give me clear answers, until Friday night at our couple's counseling session...I explained that I wanted our relationship to be primary and that I felt like he was still married d/t his 50/50 coparenting situation with BM. I said that I needed our relationship to be the central relationship and that if it wasn't, I knew I could never be happy.

I want to continue using this site, cause I love it, and I love you all this site has helped me so much, which I will be posting a huge progress later (when BF isn't sleeping next to me lol) But I'm wondering, how do I delete some of my own blogs I posted??

The title's not entirely correct -- I've been reading StepTalk for several months, trying to find some clarification on my situation, and it's been very helpful, but I am irritated for kind of vague reasons tonight and needed to finally take the step to vent in a post.

I am engaged to and living with my FDH. I have a SD8 who lives with us every other week, the other 50 % of the time with her BM. I have it great compared to a lot of STers, I know, because she is generally well-behaved and BM is fairly drama-free, although she & I don't have much contact, FDH deals with her.

No this isn't a I'm leaving drama post, I'm just not feeling the need to come here and vent since I resolved my step troubles. I'm still pissed about how I was treated by husband and SS but it's not happening anymore. You all were awesome in my time of need I hope to be able to help you all out in return someday.