Just thought I'd give a short update. Mr. Kate/BF and I are 'on hiatus or whatever' at the moment, meaning I moved out. A friend of mine needed a sublet as she is moving out of state at the end of the month, so I was pretty fortunate.

Mr. Kate and I specifically discussed that we are allowed to see other people ( I brought that up), though he said that he wouldn't because he loves me. I'm kind of curious to see if that actually happens. We live in a small town (where Mr. Kate grew up) and between that and our circle of gossipy acquaintances, I'm sure I'll find out if he does.

Robert Heinlein said "Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig."

This can be interpreted to mean that there's no point in trying to carry on an interaction that's impossible - there's nothing to be gained on either side.

Not that I care if I annoy the pig - but I don't care to waste my time trying to discourse rationally with anyone who is in fact, at the end of the day, not constrained by the bounds of rationality, be it my SS, or another poster on this forum.

Anybody with me? (grin)

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I love this ad. First of all, it has a great message. But more than that, these kids are great dancers. That might not hit you right off, because what they're doing is so *not* mainstream dancing of any style. And since they do it so well, you slip into thinking that they're really controlled by the strings. When you really think about the fact that no, they're not flopping around at the end of those strings, they're actually totally in control and creating a fantastic *illusion* of that, you have to be impressed....

I’m very sorry to do this but I’m highly offended at one poster and her constant put down responses and snide remarks.

Although I do believe some of her advice is quite good BUT her delivery is appalling.

My SS13 is very close to our family. I have a bio. 3 yr old son as well. We normally talk to him when he is at his mom's everyother day just to check in and say we are thinking of him. It has been this way for at least 5 yrs. He recently got a cell phone. We finally let him bring phone home to our house, but we set a rule no phone/ text past 10pm.

Future DH and I are going to go for 2 weeks (right after the wedding) to our honeymoon.

For the SPs who share custody or have no custody, do you want full custody of SKs?

If not, what would be your ideal visitation situation?

If you would like full custody, how would visitation with BM go?

I was just reading a forum about child support. I don't care where you live or what side you are on, the Child Support system is flawed. I don't have any kids, I can just go on what I've experienced with my Mom and Dad and DH.

Anybody get a kick out of those commercials for Old Spice with the "old spice guy" (look at your man... now back to me... now back to your man...)

Apparently he has some competition. Too funny!

http://funkybrownchick.com/2010/07/15/old-spice-commercial-guy-has-a-new...

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I wish this book had been published in 2006 when I first met DH.

No matter what you think when you meet a man with kids, there is no way you can be prepared for the outrageous battles you will face. I most definitely DID NOT know what I was getting into. What I learned from this book was that in most cases, being a step-mother is a lonely, misunderstood and thankless role to take on. That the best we can achieve in our lives is peace and not happiness.