(Thanks Micheles!) - answering that question I will explain the whole situation and maybe some thoughts may help. First of all, let me say congrats to everyone on this site who deals with much more serious problems than me (I don't live with SDs, not harrassed, no court orders or police involved etc) and be strong!

BM in my case is delusional.

She acts like SHE is still his partner/best friend and I am the outsider. She often speaks to him as if it's the two of them against me even though he has almost no contact with her.

In April he moved back in for the 3rd time, but things were different now...the divorce was final, the custody and visitation arrangements were all said and done, and H had finally stood up to BM and put a stop to all the games. We had our green light to finally start working on making a life together.

She's at it again, second time this week. BM sent my husband a 3 month calender out lining visitation for the summer. SD is scheduled to be with us for the next 2 weeks, BM knows, because she is such a freak when it comes to having all the control and say. While SD is here with us, she goes home every Wednesday to have dinner with her BM. Well yesterday, BM called and asked SD who is 12 if she was coming to dinner tomorrow night. Im so tired of BM thinking she can change the schedule and do as she pleases. Im tired of her ruining our plans, and making us to be the bad guys.

Things have been going along without too much drama lately since I've disengaged from the two biggest losers I've ever met. But I have to tell you all that these crazy ADULT Skids (I use the term adult loosely) are still kind of driving me nuts. Last night, I laid down the law that my SS34 and BD29 have to clean the house top to bottom because I can't stand it anymore. BTW, my BD29 moved in this summer because she's in college and lost her job. She'll be gone in a couple of weeks back to school. SS34 has been here since April. Come hell or high water, he'll be gone Oct. 1.

Our BM is like a teen in a very big body. She has no sense of responsibility but unfortunately the SKs refuse to leave her nest. They get to do anything they want there! No rules. No accountability. Party Party.

Just to review, we won 50% custody of SD late last year. Since then there have been no issues with SD. She never asks to go to her mom, never says she misses her or needs to see her. She also is happy to go to her at the end of the week, and happy to come back to us the next week.

One of my closest childhood friends and her DH won the lottery ($5mil if I remember correctly). He has a son by a previouse relationship and paid CS.

His winnings paid out annually. He got one check in March of each year for 10 years. ($500,000/Yr)

Each March he had to give his XW $180,000 in a lump sum until his winnings were paid in full. He also had to continue paying $800/mo in CS that was originally set by the court.

Once his winnings were fully paid by the state his CS went back to only the usual ~$800/mo until the kid turned 18.

Professional woman - Married for second time (6 yrs). I came into the second marriage completely self-sufficient with grown children and a pollyanna view of the world. I bought a large house (myself) so he could be close to his kids. He lived in it rent free for years which was fine until things started getting tight with the economy. My husband's family stuck by the ex wife and contemplated not coming to our wedding. She called his family all through our reception. I didn't know about that for years. The ex wife tried to organize a lunch on the day of my wedding with his family.

Ok so at our dd3 birthday party at a popular pizza place for children with arcade games and all, i am doing everything!! our hostess was horrible, we ended up getting the party free because they forgot our food and we had to wait 45 extra minutes for the kids to eat while they watched other parties eating. dd3 is VERY hyperactive so i was trying to keep her interested in opening her presents and eating, etc. (all she wanted to do was go play games lol) while dh sat on his lazy butt doing NOTHING!! ss6 came to me in all the madness and told me he needed more to drink. ok.