Totally off the subject of step parenting (although for some of you it might be right-on) but I heard this on a radio show once. We've all had relationships or dates that went badly for some crazy reasons. Mine's a little long, but hilarious. Basically, finish the sentence:

"I knew it was over when...."

I asked my DH today to get a paternity test. He basically said there is no point because he knows the kid (SD3) is definitely his. But if he never had a paternity test, how does he know for sure? & what is getting one going to hurt? The kid is too young to know why her blood is being taken so it's not like he will have to answer questions. & the BM doesn't even have to know about it. I know the chances are slim that she's not his, but I'm just thinking how great it would be if she's not!

Many of you are like me -- choosing the high road, not engaging in the BM's drama. However, I certainly have an arsenal of things I wish I could say to BM. Share yours too!

Last night was a back to school night for SD5. When SD started kindergarten this year, I went online and printed off all the calendars and stuff because I knew that BM wouldn't tell us when something was going on. I knew this back to school night was going on, so I told my fiance that since we have the skids that night it looked like we were going to be the ones taking SD there and attending it. No big deal, right?

BM calls DF at about 3pm and says that she's going to pick up SD to take her to this thing. Okay, again, no big deal.

For those of you who have an iPhone I just found a trick to documenting calls name*, time, details.
*make sure you change the name to their name and not a nick name! lol

Take a screen shot of it, send it to email and bam! It's documented!!

How do you take a screen shot?
Press the off button down at the same time press the center home button. You will hear it take the screen shot.

Then go to photos and it should be in your album. The select it, select the icon to email and bam! You will have a screen shot of the call on email!

I love my iPhone!

sorry guys... i know i JUST posted... but I have a question for all yall!

is it bad of me to get upset when SD wont let me near my SO?!
I mean I cant even lay in the floor next to him without her getting mad at me. I cant hold his hand (she can be holding one hand and me holding the other.. .and she will get between us and hold my hand and his hand)
just little stuff like that, it bothers me... but I try to make myself remember she is only 4 and this is new to her

Well, in my last blog I was venting about SD sleeping with daddy and SO not backing me up on the juice box ordeal!

about BM not giving us schedules to any of their activities, no phone calls ever, not informing FDH when she takes the skids to dr's appts (such as for SD's broken nose) ect and the big one they talked about was BM's gas being shut off since like June and her getting letters that her electric is about to be shut off, yet she asks for money for cheerleading. The lawyer said wait until winter, if her gas is still shut off (heat) then they will go to court. He said honestly you don't want SD13 who's BM's BFF living with you right now, 13 yo girls are a pain in the *ss.

Thank GOD I found this site!!! I thought I was nuts. I really don't like my soon to be step son. He's not bad, says I love you like 8 times a day (literally) and introduces me as his step mom even though his dad is still legally married to his bio mom. The thing is, I just don't LIKE him. I dread being alone with him, I don't miss when he's gone and just really don't enjoy the parenting thing. I try to be positive and leave him notes and cheesy crap, but when he says thank you and gives me a hug I want to run to my room as fast as I can.

Started as a civil conversation about paying for SD's college next year - DH, BM, myself, and SD's therapist.