I didn't get a Happy Mother's Day from STBH , but we did spend the day together without any KIDS *SMILE* BM called all day friday saying she had to "work" Sunday and she wanted him to keep the kids. He went out of town Friday and came back home Sunday morning. Then he took me fishing. We stayed on the lake most of Sunday evening. I enjoyed my day. It made me feel good to know that he choose to spend the day with me instead of letting BM bully him for once. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.
For those who saw my screaming I hate Mother's Day caption, here is an update.
Friday night was spent cleaning the house "out of respect" to BM and her family when they showed up. Of course, there are two mother's day cards laying on the counter, one for BM and one for MIL.
Ss made my day today! He called me this morning to wish me a Happy Mother's Day! He had already given me a card before he left for his mom's house but I didn't have my hopes up that he would call today. This is the first time in 9 years(6 officially being a stepmom) that he called me on Mother's Day. This is such a big step. I'm overwhelmed with emotion.
We had a nice talk. I told him that I was glad he called, that he made my day and that I loved him.
I hope that everyone has a great day today!!
My sister sent me a card. STBH didn't. I guess we aren't married yet so I am really NOT a step mom. Still, I feel like one and i am dissapointed.
Happy mothers day to all of you who KNOW you are mothers despite what the papers say or the lack of cards and recognition.
I HATE MOTHERS DAY! Every year it is nothing much more than an extreme heartache and hassle. A reminder that I will never be anything more than a pain for my stepchildren and a mother of convinience to my biological kids. I hate being a mom on this day that should make us feel good about being a mom. Now this freakin' holiday that makes this mom feel like a puke for not being a "better" mom.
I am not the woman of tomorrow
I am not the leader of today
I drowned slowly in my sorrow
You wash the hurt away
I am not kind hearted or always right
I am not cruel or full of hatred
Let me go, no hold me tight
I am what life has created
I have no excuses to offer you
I am simply me
Some I win, Some I lose
Yet who I am is who I choose to be.
Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of all of you today.
To those that have a child, regardless of step/bio/adopted, we are all in the same boat.
This day is for each and every woman out there that has a child. Period. And if no other day we can agree, we must admit that our connections are of equal value on this special day. We love, care and worry for our children...... All children.......
So, here is my situation...
I am a single mother. My daughter is almost two years old. I met a great man that has recently been divorced. We have been dating since January 2007. We werent as careful as we should have been and wound up pregnant. We are both okay with the matter although now, I am not so sure that he is. He has two girls, one is 6 and the other is 3. He has regular every other weekend and a couple times a week visits with the girls. His ex is not high and mighty on the idea of him dating although she dates someone herself.
She was asking me questions about my plans for tonight and tomorrow. I told her I was planning to leave around 7 tomorrow morning to go visit my mom. Then I saw her whispering with her dad. Next thing I know, she is handing me a card, saying that she wanted to give it to me today because I wouldn't be home tomorrow. I open it, and it is a Mother's Day card. The crazy part is, it is exactly the same card I bought for my mom. Now, keep in mind, in the last 10 years, I have gotten exactly one Mother's Day gift and that was from her sister. Go figure.
Well the other day I spoke to bm regarding sd starting her period, I wasn't going to worry about what she thought but I brought it up any how...I asked her how she would like me to handle it if she happens to be with us when the big day comes she said "I trust you, just don't get her those huge things, and I don't sugar coat anything" I then asked so have you discussed this with her is she aware of how things work she just responded with "she knows a little bit" SO...I guess I should handle the situation how I see fit, from now on Im done asking her opinion she clearly doesn't have one unle