I need some guidance here. My husband's daughter (8) went to Europe for the summer with her Mother and she shares a room with my daughter (7). While his daughter has been gone I have been letting my two sons (7) and (9) sleep in her bed. My husband comments back to me "I don't want your sons sleeping in my daughter's bed and get their stinky socks and P**ss all over her bed while she is gone". First, the bed is covered with a mattress protector and second the children, not being in school, like to sleep in the same room together and that is the only bedroom with two beds. I told my husband he was being unreasonable and putting his and his daughter's unreasonable needs in front of mine and my children -- I mean who cares its just a bed -- and his daughter's stuff was packed away over the closet for the summer.
Then issue no. 2, when his daughter comes back next week he wants to take her to Busch Gardens -- just he and her for a few nights. This is after he complains that we spend too much money and that he is just getting by with the money that he is making. Also, in order to not make his life hard, I have my children in camp for two weeks so they don't crawl all over him and his daughter when she returns -- and that is costing me $300 over and above what I would have paid for that two weeks.
To all of this -- what do I get? Nasty emails: "I would like to make the other room into erikas room if you are charging me the money you are charging me and also if the boys feel they can sleep and piss in my daughters bed. And nothing happens

I feel like fuck erikas space bed posesions fuck marks stuff and sobriety. Fuck the ********s.

As lon as all the ****** get what they want fuck everyone else.

You said I cant go for a overnoight trip with Erika this is bullshitn when you are buying toys having parties im not your employee niger bitch hang my ptcure fix this fix that do this do that do what I say do tonly this list of things with Erika"

Does anyone have advice for me? He usually doesn't cuss like the above but this is the email I received this morning because my two boys (7) and (9) were sleeping in his princess's bed that happens to be in my daughter's room.

Am I the one being unreasonable? Am I not respecting his feelings?
He was also complaining that my 7 year old son lost a part to his toy car 3 1/2 weeks ago and now he ca't build his model car unless he orders a new part -- This was 3 weeks ago and I heard about it then and didn't want to hear about it again and that go me angry too.
I really really need advice or insight!!