StressedStepMon's picture

BM has a new hobby... stalking!

So we took the kids to the zoo all day long today, BM knew our plans. And apparently while we were over 100 miles away, she took this as the opportunity to come to our new house and check out the place. WTF??? DH has told her on several occasions that if she wants to see where we live, she is welcome to follow us home one day when we are dropping off/picking up the kids. She always declined, but I guess today was her opportunity. We wouldn't have even known about it if my mother wasn't our closest neighbor and noticed a strange woman lurking outside looking in the windows. My mother yelled at her and scared the sh*t out of her apparently, because she promptly left after getting busting. OMG are you kidding me? I'm so angry!

angeline's picture

That's creepy. Unfortunately,

That's creepy. Unfortunately, I can relate...BM followed me recently, all the while appearing (don't know for a fact) to be videotaping me while she drove. Luckily she got cut off, and I lost her. The lengths they go to... Cool

LRP75's picture

Wow! That's crazy! What was

Wow! That's crazy! What was she hoping to see?

Oh wait, I know: You got a new sofa so she thinks it's time for CS to be raised? *sarcasm*

I don't cater to crazy.

Orange County Ca's picture

She'll driver herself crazy

She'll driver herself crazy if not already there. Stalking? That's a little heavy - curious? Yep.


I've observed humans for 70 years and dogs for 10. I prefer the dogs.

terri123's picture

Yikes! We had that too...for

Yikes! We had that too...for months, BM would drive up and down our road, thinking she was "sneaking" when her white car was known to us...dumb. It's so sad. BM lived on the opposite side of town too....but almost every Friday was getting "gas" down by the store where we lived...Funny thing here: my bank was located by her place of employment. She filed a PFA against me. Claimed I was "stalking" her. LMAO. Too funny. The judge declined the request. Again, sad. Very sad.

out_of_our_control's picture

That is super scary. I have

That is super scary. I have kinda same problem. But my husbands ex wife cyber stalks me. She makes websites about me pretending to be me. Making me look like a evil step mom who hates my step kids. Then she shows the kids the site and says "see I told y'all she hated you"" then she writes non stop about me in her blogs. She is obsessed. Its very scary. Sometimes you have to involve police for your own safety. I filed a police report for cyber stalking and impersonation, for the site she created pretending to be me.

ManagingMom's picture

Is your husband's ex known as

Is your husband's ex known as "Crew"?

imjustthemaid's picture

BM stalked DH for years. She

BM stalked DH for years. She is the reason we moved about 25 min away because she is too cheap to use her gas to come anywhere near our new house. But everytime DH is in our old town somehow she finds him-she did it just yesterday!! I hate her so much.

StressedStepMon's picture

@ ManagingMom, no, she's not

@ ManagingMom, no, she's not known as Crew. DH and I moved 30 mins away to avoid her previous stalking behavior. I walked into our laundry room one day at our old house (it was at the back of the house with its own entrance) and found her just standing there. I was obviously startled and dropped the laundry basket, and she flew out the door and took off. We changed the locks, but she found out from skids where we kept a spare key. Then we would find random things missing. One day all our forks and spatulas were gone! We knew it was her doing it when random things began appearing, a broken coffee pot that DH used to have. We figured the "visits" would stop once we moved. I confronted her about being at our new house when we dropped off skids yesterday. She denied that it was her. I said it's funny that even though my mother has never met you, she described your vehicle and you to the letter! She again denied it and said that I was just trying to stir up trouble to present at our next custody hearing that's scheduled for August (she's trying to have CS raised even though my husband is off work indefinitely due to an illness)! She's claiming that she should be entitled to more CS because my income has increased. She fails to realize that CS isn't based off my income. I haven't gotten involved in CS or custody issues yet, but I will be damned if I give that bitch a penny of my hard earned money. This woman just makes me sick with all of her tricks and drama. She left my husband, he didn't leave her, so why is she trying so hard to stay connected to him now when she didn't want him when she had him?! She and DH were amicable until she found out that we was getting remarried, that's when all the stalking started and custody battles began and just drama after drama. She went on a crusade to tarnish DH's reputation in our town (he has a very public job and is well known in the area). We ended up moving just to get away from all the crap she stirred up as well to stop the stalking crap. She works part time in a fast food restaurant and has little else to do but use her children as pawns to hurt their father. Very sick person.

mgangnagel's picture

I am so glad to hear all the

I am so glad to hear all the stories. My boyfriend's ex stalked him at his church, when she is atheist, when she thought I would be there. THen, last night, went to a fair we were going to by calling up the parents of his daughter's friends and telling them she would take them. So, she was with daughter and her friends all night on his custody weekend. She came up to his kids three times while we were there, hugging them, and telling them how much she loves them, all while giving me dagger eyes. He told her it was stalking and to back off but who was waiting for us on the path as we leave but BM. Scary woman.

Rags's picture

You and your DH need a new

You and your DH need a new hobby ... barring BM's idiot stalker ass in court and with the police. Put in security cameras around your house and when BM comes stalking file charges against her immediately, every time.

To make a major point both you and DH should obtain concealed weapons training and permits. Next time she startles you when you walk in to your laundry room just shoot her and put her out of the world’s misery.

IMHO of course.

A parent is an example, mentor, confidante, advocate and disciplinarian, not a buddy.-Rags
If you can't listen and learn then you will have to feel.-WLR
If you want to be a part of my life then use your head or STFU and do what you are told.-Rags

rahrah2019's picture

I'd follow up your last

I'd follow up your last dropoff conversation with one that went like this:

"My mother actually took some pictures of whoever was window peeping at our house. We are concerned for everyone's safety at this point, and we are going to turn the pictures over to the police so they can investigate it."

Then watch her shit her pants.

rahrah2019's picture

Also, I agree with getting

Also, I agree with getting some guns to protect yourself. Anyone who hides anywhere in or around my house is looking to get shot.

IAMGOOD's picture

OMG - that is wierd. Clearly

OMG - that is wierd.

Clearly she wanted to see the house on her terms but I really think it is odd behavior.

Maybe I am too easy cause it took me 2 years to get the BM away from my home and she would walk by it and stop by when she felt like it. Such a horrible nightmare & invasion of privacy.

That really is wierd though - how about a few camera around house even if you don't hook them up?